He cancelled a date and is now angry I didn’t reply?

[Utopiana]

Been seeing this man for 2 months ish. We were meant to meet on Saturday at 7pm but I got a message (after I had spent two hours getting ready!!!) at 6 saying “hello, it’s one of my mates birthday tonight sorry I forgot, I will have to show up for a bit, but would be free around 11pm, idk how you feel about that”

I felt like he had a better offer (not the party) and just thought well okay. Went out with my friends instead. No intention of getting into an argument or discussion with the guy.

I have just got a message from him saying “you need to learnt to communicate better, you can’t just go silent when you don’t get what you want or what is offered is not good enough for you.”

ITS BEEN LESS THAN 2 days.

Was I wrong not to reply to his text? I think any rational person knows someone’s not going to meet them for a meal at 11?

You are spot on ❤️ what a cretin of a guy meet him at 11pm. A total joker!

I don't think your being unreasonable but maybe a Thanks but no thanks would have been polite.

Why should she be polite?

Well done OP - you know your worth

Oh no. A man disapproves of women having self-respect and standards. And what eloquence and class is shown in that disapproval. Whatever shall we do...?

No, don’t you forget @Jimbojobsworth, we’re not interested in the ‘other side of the story’ if it involves lowering our own standards or accepting bullshit off others.

We seem to be trained to be polite so the guys don't think badly of us, or go around telling others we're nutjobs and they had a lucky escape.

The burned haystack method seems to be doing quite well, at least the principles behind the method are a good basis to maintain imo.

Has anyone here been using it?

There a saying that goes ' To see where you're going look where you came from' Today: He's dumped you for a piss up with the lads and coming round later for a shag. Roll the clock forward a few years and there you are trapped at home unable to work with 3 kids under 5 while he's down the pub. He comes home half cut at closing time demanding his marital rights then falls asleep on you hot sweaty and snoring. Good luck with that then😪 Get out while you can

Just Googled The burned haystack method - every day is a school day!

I would have just blocked tbh. One thing to double book, but letting you know at the last minute and then suggesting you wait around until he graced you with his presence at 11pm (for a shag) is quite another.

And that's why this is called crap because everyone thinks he may be just after a bunk up so what he double booked suck it up ,men get let down a helluva lot more times we don't go off crying into the nearest kleenex,I'm pleased I'm single if this is the crap men have to put up with

men get let down a helluva lot more times we don't go off crying into the nearest kleenex

No, you turn up here to whinge and rant and bewail your imaginary land of male oppression by evil, laughing, boot-stomping women. Try the Kleenex, please. We beg you.

I'm pleased you're single too.

Please get therapy for your anger issues

I suspect a lot of Kleenex is getting used.

damned right! 👏

Yeah, you're right.

Awww won’t somebody think of the poor menz and their hurty feelz 🥲🥲🥲🥲

And no men probably don’t cry when they get let down - they react so much more aggressively. Sending abusive messages and photos of their dick.And using the Kleenex for another purpose

He should know that a no response is a response in itself, if he doesn’t know this he’s too thick so good riddance, if he knows this then he’s just angry that he didn’t get away with scumbag behaviour.

it’s all good riddance anyway. Dating is a great thing because you get to weed out people who treat you badly.

Tesco is doing a sale on Kleenex tissues if you need some. You better stock up!

😂😂😂

Is it not funny how everyone sees this as an 11pm bunk up,if it is that reason dump him,if not at least he asked how you feel about meeting up later you did not have to let him in for starters if he's genuine he would apologise and leave ; SIMPLES this is the trouble with online dating to many nutters and yet when I said I'm glad to be single if this is how women behave I have been castigated,at least I'm genuine I would answer an Ill received text message either to say not tonight josephine or I accept your apology and arrange another night ppl are so so selfish all want their own way each sex trying to dominate the other with such selfish attitude,and this is why many relationships end up in limbo or divorce courts ha ha to that ,I love the way the guideline say please be respectful,yet I have been sworn at and rudely spoken to ,I have respect and an opinion where's all yours ,yeah whatever

Oh hi, Jim. We've been expecting you.