My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

Well done OP. It does make you think something similar happened to make his ex ghost him, doesn't it?

FGS bla bla bla. Hope he doesn't cause you a problem/ hope he has some dignity.

He was chatting through boredom. 😐
You did the right thing. Nothing to regret here.

@Mountaindewstar chatting to other girls through boredom… well that just says it all. You have done the right thing. He will hate the fact he’s now been left single before having someone else waiting in the wings, he’s no longer in control and won’t like that. He would have wanted to keep seeing you whilst actively seeking someone else online and then drop you on his terms. And to add further insult he tells his sister that is you who has just ghosted him? Hopefully all this just confirms he’s not a nice guy, he’s a liar and a cheat and you deserve someone who doesn’t have a wandering eye.

I have no doubt in my mind this is how his last relationship ended

Funny how upset people get with the consequences of their actions.
You have been so blessed b this.
His poor Ex!

Men are so bloody predictable. My husband started looking for a friend to talk to to make himself feel better. You will all be shocked to hear it wasn't a man to chat over a beer with. It was a woman who he then shagged several times. Who knew he was married. As was she. I'm so sad for him he said the sex was shit. I know. Realised now that could be another lie to make me feel sorry for him or diminish what he has done.

I agree, she also had a child with him 😔 I really feel for her. I know she is with somebody else now , I hope he treats her well x

Just caught up with all the posts from yesterday, I had some time away from my phone. Its quite obvious alot of people havent rtwt! 😄

Exactly its never chatting to men / male friends to cure their boredom 😳

Well done OP x

Exactly its never chatting to men / male friends to cure their boredom 😳

A game or two of solitaire would surely relieve boredom?

He never said he was bored. I have to clarify. He said to make himself feel better. Makes all the difference ! Twat.

He really thought that trying to persuade you that abusing the trust of another woman by toying with her to alleviate his boredom was a good look? Quite apart from the fact that he's clearly lying it still makes him a jerk. Good for you for kicking him to the kerb!

Bored? Watch a show on Netflix, read a book, go to the gym, join a club…

joining a dating site wouldn’t sit high on my things to do to escape boredom meter.

Especially when you are married....

You should’ve got your friend to turn up at the pub.

I know you’re probably still upset and disappointed, after 11 months, but you SO dodged a bullet. You owe your friend a bottle of champagne, at least. Maybe share it one day?

As for the “bored” thing, re going pointlessly on dating sites, have heard men do this for some reason (occasionally women too) - but they are at least usually single! The boredom thing is such a strange excuse when you’re in a committed relationship. Pathetic. He doesn’t sound very bright. Besides, it’s clearly a lie when he was going pretty full steam ahead with your friend, and no thought for her feelings either. What a vain idiot he was.

Good that everyone knows the truth. It must have been an awful shock. But now you can just forget and start to move on 🌷.

Oh he's such a cliché!

Did you tell his sister the truth? What did she say?

Slimy shit, trying to weave his way back in with the boredom excuse.

So glad he got his comeuppance OP. Still so pleased you caught him and dumped him.

The only problem was, in the photo he was sitting on a cream fabric sofa that he had bought just three months earlier. His previous sofa was tan leather.

I think one of the Ecclestone sister caught out her ex (who was seriously punching).in a similar way ...he was claiming some incrimminating photos were old, but he was wearing some gold bracelet she gifted him during the relationship in them.

So the ex that 'ghosted him' he has a child with? Does this moron even know what ghosting is? You legally cannot stop communicating with someone if you have a child with them as you need to talk at the very least regarding arrangements for the kid. Such a liar.

He's quite self serving making his excuses through your siblings to still try and put his spin on things, even though you clearly are not interested in hearing it. 😠

Good on you telling the sister what actually happened when she phoned you. Hopefully there won't be much more drama going forward.

No that's not what has happened at all 🙄 please read the whole thread, getting frustrating now

Good for you. Boredom? What he be like when with you 10 year then? Hes a lying piece of shit. Some men are always looking for 'better', its their ego ..no disrespect oc ..even if they had toppest model they'd get bored. Im proud of you.

Exactly