My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

Glad this is back, I came on this morning for an update but the thread had vanished.

Well done OP, you have played a blinder.

Of course you're hurt - that shows you're human - but I bet it passes quicker than you expected.

On a very silly note, I wish this was a romcom and we all knew you were supposed to end up with the other man. Please come back in the future and let us know if your life does turn into a chick flick.

Well done OP! You did brilliantly 👏.

Can't believe grown men behave like this, yuk yuk!!!

Who cares if OP was childish? So what?

I don't think that actually happens, except on TV. Women seemingly have no issue with suddenly ending contact with men whenever they want to.

@shuggles Women seemingly have no issue with suddenly ending contact with men whenever they want to.

Do they need to seek premission beforehand? Or are they not allowed to decide what is best for them without consideration for someone else?

It is neither selfish or inconsiderate to think of your own needs before others!

How about your friend replies to him on the website and arranges to meet him. Then you turn up too ... 'Surprise' !!!!

OP, were his initials G F by any chance?

Post about him on the 'Are we Dating the same guy' FB group.

OP, i was massively behind when I posted this and hadn’t finished reading the thread.
i just want to say, what this man did was awful. And so many other awful stories of similar on here.
Given the shock, hurt and revulsion, i wanted to say what a woman you are to have handled yourself and this situation as you have. Some of the usual cranks have replied on here, victim blaming. Let them be on the receiving end of what you’ve found out and then judge. Awful.
Respect and actually, some inspiration from you on how to conduct myself in future when people piss me off.
I hope all goes well with all the health things yoj now have to go through. All the best to you for you future and - actually - what a bit of good fortune in this mess that he messaged someone who could call him out on that. Big respect to your friend too.

Well I'm not the person who claimed that women somehow get magically drawn back into relationships if they don't block people.

What a twat. Would’ve been brilliant if you’re mate had given him her WhatsApp but had her profile picture set to one as the two of yoy 🫣😂

@shuggles

But do claim, they need to seek premission beforehand? Or are they not allowed to decide what is best for them without consideration for someone else?

You can’t say that when you don’t know what conversation they’ve had! OP made it clear she had told this guy everything and he was happy to go for a nice meal together as friends to help her with the pain she was going through.

I don’t understand people who make such bold statements when they are so far removed from the situation.

Any updates @Mountaindewstar? How did today go?

I didn't say people need permission to block people. You have confused my comment with someone else's.

Catfish him and make him think he's meeting someone and you turn up. What a prick!

I really hope you're okay, OP. I hope you're being kind to yourself 💐

This 😂 and text him it whilst he's waiting for you somewhere miles away from where he lives sat at an expensive restaurant. Go out and have a good time with mates xx

Tell him you've broken down somewhere in the middle of nowhere and really need him to come and help you.
Once he gets there and texts 'where are you?'
Send the pic.

Later posters, please RTFT, it's all done and dusted now. The date was yesterday.

But if they read the thread to get to this post they will know..

The point is they don't.

So hes resorted to messaging my sister and brother on social media now , saying I've got it all wrong, he would never have gone through with meeting any women it was just chatting through boredom. Hes in love with me bla bla bla bla. They have told him to stay away from me and to not under any circumstances turn up at my address or police will be called.
His sister ( who is actually very sweet and I got on with very well) msg and said is everything ok hun? We didnt see you around this weekend and we normally do , as they often drink in same place we do.
I didn't want to but I told her the truth, she said he had told them ( the family) that I've just kind of ghosted him, however she didnt believe his story so reached out to me... hes such a liar 😳🙈

Anyway I'm staying strong. Feeling up and down. Glad I've ended it. I've deleted his number now too. He is also blocked on all of my social media