My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

This. Just silence. Says everything by saying nothing. Dignified and classy and it’ll tie him in knots. Good luck x

Not what you’re asking but if he’s paying id still want to go and enjoy myself.
I might be over reaching but I had an account from ages ago still active and logged in to find out if the person I was seeing was on it I had no intention of meeting anyone on it myself in that time I had a few messages and checked out a few profiles that interested me

For some reason the first link didn’t work! I’ll try again 🤦🏻‍♀️

This is the first part:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/3800477-Dumped-by-text?page=1

Oh. And a name change fail for me too. Fucking hell 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂

I would 100 per cent just ghost. Maximum headfuck for him.

How about sharing the screenshot as your WhatsApp status. He will see that and will be humiliated too! (Hopegully)

If he cares so little for you that he's looking at dating sites then he's not going to care what you think of him. If his ego is that fragile then tough.

Or as my profile pic on what's app 😄😄😄

My sister just said her ex was caught doing the same a few years back , anyway when she confronted him he said I was on there checking if u were because I have fallen for you so hard 😄😄😄

Loving some of these suggestions. A few years back my ExH and I just separated as I'd caught him cheating (again). We originally agreed he'd move out for a year, go to counselling and he had to prove to me he had changed etc. within about 2 weeks I get a screenshot from a friend of his profile on Bumble. My favourite bit (now, a few years later, i find funny) was when I confronted him. His reason was truly astonishing. He told me was having therapy and his therapist told him he had to date other women to learn to resist temptation 😂😂😂😂. So date them, but not f**k them.
Long story short, I filed for divorce. Stupid bastard!

I wish I could give you some advice but after the sht I’ve put up with from my should be ex partner I really can’t as I would be a hypocrite but I CAN *say that I know exactly what you’re going through and how you feel! Please don’t let someone make a fool of you like I have for five years!

That doesn’t even make sense, but I know there are some real fruit loop therapists out there, if it even was a therapist who gave him that advice, I mean. I’m thinking he made it up, though!

I’d be tempted to get your friend to set up a date and you both be there waiting for him. But not the most sensible option. Much more dignified suggestions above.

As long as it’s definitely him. Someone set up a fake profile for my daughter. We guessed someone from school as she was only 17 at the time. Used a photo of hers from her Instagram account and added all of her info.

You are doing so well to not get mad! I wouldn't be able to help myself, always been one to text first and think later 🙈🙈

How about sending his dating profile to his mum/ brother. Add the legdnd " this is dhy I left him".

Then block and ghost.

This is literally one of the funniest excuses I have ever read 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

Do this, but as late as possible in the run up the the weekend - when you were due to meet. And with the middle finger emoji.

Sorry this happened OP.

You weren't in anything of a committed relationship with him, so I'd just block/forget him. It's not remotely worthy of the emotional effort you're affording it.

A long time ago now, my boyfriend of two years (who was also a serial cheat apparently) dumped me. It floored me too, how could I have been so stupid. I ghosted him. It was hard but proud of myself.

A few months later I see him, and literally walk past him, no acknowledgement because why should I. It killed him. He kept finding ways to message my best friend : "How's Hela doing" "Hela looked great" "Hela walked past me, I'm so upset."

Basically, men think they are the shit when they believe they hold the control and hold all the cards, when actually, they're just plain old shit.

This is the winner

Just send him the screenshot with ‘how embarrassing for you’ underneath, then block. Done.

What an arse.

You deserve better.

I would have to carry on like nothing's happened and then be a no show at the weekend. I'd wait for the 'where are you?' message and then block on everything

I missed that one .. it's great!! @LizLooney !