My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

This is what I'm leaning towards, we have a routine of me msging just b4 I leave mine , he leaves his and say were both on the way... or will I actually be on my way to my friends house for wine and giggles? 😂🥳... I think so..

I'd get my friend to arrange a video call with him to be 100% certain.

Oh I like this !

'Sorry, I've had a better offer.'

vaguely similar situation a decade ago.

he messaged me on the Friday “will be with you at 6”.

I went to a friends and left his stuff on my doorstep with a note saying “best of luck for the future”.

I saw him some years later and he said it was the most brutal punch in the guts ever. He felt as though I didn’t care about him on any level, not even enough to feel angry at him.

If you want to punch him that’s the way to do it.

I wrote a whole spiel and decided not to post - I have a lot of experience in being disappointed by people - also in heartbreak and betrayal

So here I am (again) posting - to tell you THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Get your trusted friends around you and be supported - i dont care if its facepack n movie night or whatever - support each other !
You had 11 months of this - it could have been 11 years! - feel lucky ! I am telling you - you may feel confused /and/or go back to this A/hole
He has other plans it seems and you are not a priority
Find your own peace, whether it be on your own, with friends or in a partnership
Just know you are loved and blessed
you will come out of the other side of this X

Brilliant! Well done u!

Thank you, what kind words. I'm sorry you have experienced this kind of f**kery too!

Ive read all 16 pages of this! Way over invested.

Well done on the non emotional response. That alone should make you proud.

part of me wants you to ghost him, part of me wants you to screenshot and block and the other wants you just to gather his items, drop them on his doorstep then message him saying theres a box on his doorstep for him, and then block.

I too have read all 16 pages, and I'm thinking the best way to really make it hit home with him is to not give any explanation, just radio silence. Don't block, just ghost and don't reply. It will be such a dent to his ego and he will be thinking about it for ages! 😂

This is so cold! Love it.

Just ditch and move on.Lifes too short to waste on cheaters.

Considering how many men brazenly do this I don’t think they dread being confronted like we imagine they do. They know they might get spotted trying to cheat by colleagues and friends and they don’t give a shit.

I’d go as far to say I think some of them actually enjoy being confronted so they can lie and manipulate “someone stole my photo/ it’s an old profile”.

I regret confronting my ex and getting emotional. I think he really enjoyed knowing how much he’d upset me and how foolish I felt. I wish I’d quietly set up my own profile. What on earth could he have said?

Send him the screen shot and say

“If you have any referral discount codes, let me know 💋 bye”

I am in awe of all of you saying to do it silently, ghost him, block him etc. I would get the screenshot printed on a flag the size of his house and wrap it around it.

Best of luck op. What a wanker.

Or.
Dont crack on you are any sort of aware of his snidey ness.
Tell him YOU met someone far more suited to you on another site. As such you are now terminating this farce.
no apology-just block.
(You woulda have been lucky if he ever displayed even that as honesty.)They hate it when you treaat them how they treat you.
his loss.dont even worry yourself bout it.

(Screenshot)
"I think I'll swipe (direction associated with rejection) on this one."

This is what came to mind, but I haven't used the apps so I don't know if it's swipe left or right to reject. 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

If your friend has never met him I’m surprised she recognised it was your boyfriend?

I would not let him know that you have found out about the dating site or let him know that you are annoyed. End it with a call or text telling him you have been seeing someone else. Either that or tell him he is not very good in the bedroom anything that will hurt him. He is a sneaky pig thinking he can get away with it being dumped out of the blue will shock him.

I think this is bang on.

As is contacting the other guy you're chatting to.

Everything with decent closure.

Tell him you have crabs.......

They don’t care. Which is why my ex was so thrown. He didn’t know what had happened.

No, you need closure. Don't do this to yourself. Have a conversation, but don't be swayed by his bs.

I would text him just after you were due to meet and say " Just about recovered from the other, big boy! Looking forward to a repeat performance tonight" Immediately text again and say " Can't make tonight as I have a headache." He will think the first text was meant for someone else and sent to him in error.

Show class.
Manic behaviour will just make him think he’s had a lucky escape.