My husband is taking the p**s!!

[rosetta32]

I need to rant because I have nowhere else to rant. But I'm getting so frustrated with my husband.

We have a newborn baby and a 20 month old, so it's all very chaotic in the house, very busy, little sleep etc.

I am on maternity leave so at home with the kids in the week, which is lovely but also very tiring. When it comes to the weekend, it's nice to get a bit of a break and share responsibilities but this does not seem to be the case. He keeps booking golf days at the weekend (6-8 hours), football trips.

Today, he said he was nipping to see his friend and the gym at 10am. It's 7pm and he's not home, decided to enjoy the weather and grab drinks. I'm just furious, tired and pretty upset. Has he checked out do we think :(?

your last post has shocked me, I cant believe he put golf first. At least you know where you stand. sending you love and strength.

@rosetta32 even if it doesn’t feel like it now, this is the best thing for you and your kids in the long term. Stay strong and remember ‘this too shall pass’. Love and hugs to you 😘

So pleased you’ve got people with you taking care of you. Sending you strength. Always wise to speak to your gp about your mood

We are all here for you so lean on us for support. If you work, get yourself signed off sick. Focus everything on taking care of yourself. If you become mentally unwell it may take quite some time to recover. The Calm app is really good. Get yourself some therapy to see you through this difficult time, even if it is just a 10 session package online.

You got this x

So sad to read your update OP. He is not worthy of you. Cowardly excuse for a husband/father. Sending all the love. We are all here for you 🥰xx

Oh sweetheart im so sad to read your update but glad to hear your mum is there with you. Yes go to doctors and take the time you need. You sound so lovely & don't deserve this level of disrespect. Sending a big hug 🤗

Selfish bastard 🤬

I'm sorry to hear this. Thank goodness you have a good family.

Oh sweet heart my heart goes out to you at what is really a crap time. You are strong, you've got this. We are all here supporting you. I hope your husband realises what an idiot he's been.

Really sad update
it’s clear where he stands.

hang in there for now and just keep going… you are amazingly strong.

Also remember things will also get much easier once the baby hits 3m 6m a year… etc

Just wanted to say I was thinking about you OP (I'm sure lots of us are) and sending a hug x

Came across this thread recently and so shocked by how awful husband was! I’m wondering if there’s any update from you OP, are you feeling any better? X

Lock the door and tell him to find himself somewhere else to stay tonight and maybe a few more

I'm just so sorry this is happening to you. Ithink you are doing the right thing telling him to leave. If family isn't coming first then he needs to get out.
The awful thing about this is the lying and refusal on his part to tell you what is going on.
He needs to understand that you don't behave like this and get to keep your family. Just dreadful behaviour.
The trouble is even if he comes round in the future the damage is done. You will never forget him abandoning you at your most vulnerable.

Shocked at his response to be honest , what an absolute waste of space . You and your children deserve so much better xx

Hi @rosetta32 hope you're doing a bit better and continue to get support from your family