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Ilivetosleep · 2024-05-16T19:34:16+00:00

My husbands older brother turns 50 this year. He is married and hads a new born baby. This afternoon when I got home from work ,my husband has declared that him, his brother, his nephew and two of their cousins are going to Thailand for his 50th. He hasn't mentioned this to me before and we have 4 kids and custody of my niece. Would you find this odd and worrying??

KiwiOtter · 16/05/2024 21:59

Love the way he is informing you he is going, rather than discussing it. Nice way to try to railroad you into submission there.

He knows he shouldn’t even be considering it.

katebushh · 16/05/2024 22:00

Sorry typos 😵‍💫

datcherygrateful · 16/05/2024 22:00

katebushh · 16/05/2024 21:59

Might the be going to smoke weed? It's legal there now, my ex goes to see his friend who loves there and I know they do that. I dread to think what else 🤢

Surely Netherlands is a cheaper and more suitable alternative? for 420 fans?

Solidlump · 16/05/2024 22:04

OP you said that this brother that DH is planning on going to Thailand with has cheated on both his wives. You said you thought he was awful.
How has your DH reacted to his brother's behaviour as regards cheating? Has he condemned it or does he see nothing wrong with it?

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Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 22:04

Right. So he's back about an hour ago. Kids all sorted and he's had his shower.
I confronted him. I've just confronted him and he started laughing. Which wound me up even more. Then he said it was a joke and he didn't book anything and told his brother and cousins he's not going. But he thought it would be funny to wind me up as I'm so gullible.

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MyBreezyPombear · 16/05/2024 22:07

You believing him telling you something makes you gullible? All that is shown is you can't trust what he says.

What a twat.

colachive · 16/05/2024 22:09

Sounds like a prize bellend OP

Restinggoddess · 16/05/2024 22:13

Well that’s one red flag swopped for another red flag

MrsKwazi · 16/05/2024 22:15

What a twat

QueenBitch666 · 16/05/2024 22:15

Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 22:04

Right. So he's back about an hour ago. Kids all sorted and he's had his shower.
I confronted him. I've just confronted him and he started laughing. Which wound me up even more. Then he said it was a joke and he didn't book anything and told his brother and cousins he's not going. But he thought it would be funny to wind me up as I'm so gullible.

Fucking hilarious. Your husband is a twat

beenwhereyouare · 16/05/2024 22:19

It wasn't funny to you, I'm sure. The positive side? Now you don't have to put his things in black bin liners. 😉

Toxicinlawz · 16/05/2024 22:21

Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 22:04

Right. So he's back about an hour ago. Kids all sorted and he's had his shower.
I confronted him. I've just confronted him and he started laughing. Which wound me up even more. Then he said it was a joke and he didn't book anything and told his brother and cousins he's not going. But he thought it would be funny to wind me up as I'm so gullible.

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ but I'm glad he's not going. Go and relax...come back to the thread in a few hours and by then we would have come up with a plan of pay back 🤣🤣🤣

Bluebird987 · 16/05/2024 22:28

Ok, so he thought it was funny. As the above poster said, now we have to think of payback prank

PieFaces · 16/05/2024 22:36

Leave it a couple of weeks, tell him you feel sick/tierd/have GP appointment then tell him you’re pregnant with triplets. Print a scan photo off internet.

Bluebird987 · 16/05/2024 22:44

Triplets is perfect. Love it

Tell him you now identify as a cat. Play it up, keep it going for a couple of days.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 23:14

Restinggoddess · 16/05/2024 22:13

Well that’s one red flag swopped for another red flag

Agree.

Tickytocky · 16/05/2024 23:56

Sorry OP - my (then)BF announced when I was 5 mths pregnant he was taking a job in Thailand.
He did everything listed on this thread, except visit the temples.

(UGHH cringes inside out )

grinandslothit · 16/05/2024 23:56

Wow, he's not coming off as a very nice man is he now.

It sounds like it was a test to see if you would agree with it or not, and then when you told him absolutely not, then he decided it was a joke or a prank.

I like the triplet prank in a few weeks, or maybe talk about how you and girlfriends are taking a girls' trip to Kenya.

Bluesuitredtie · 17/05/2024 00:06

Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 21:05

He has been away before with the same group and his 'sensible' brother. Who apparently doesn't want to go on this trip.

That’s your answer then. My xdh did the same with his mate. note he is now the ex..

id be telling him that is obvious what’s he’s going for an I’d be consulting a divorce lawyer whilst he was away.

Catsmere · 17/05/2024 00:12

He's an arsehole, isn't he? An utter piece of shit.

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/05/2024 00:14

Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 22:04

Right. So he's back about an hour ago. Kids all sorted and he's had his shower.
I confronted him. I've just confronted him and he started laughing. Which wound me up even more. Then he said it was a joke and he didn't book anything and told his brother and cousins he's not going. But he thought it would be funny to wind me up as I'm so gullible.

I'm interested in the timing. Sounds like Shrodinger's Joke to me. If you'd said, "of course darling, you go and have sex with underage, economically disadvantaged girls who can't say no" I wonder if it would have been a joke.

I assume his dickhead brother and awful nephews will still be raping girls.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 17/05/2024 00:20

OpalSpirit · 16/05/2024 21:24

South East Asias sex industry is an absolute tragedy.
Very young women and children left with little option but to sell themselves very cheaply to godawful men.

Awful situations that are joked about.
Even the ‘ love you long time’ saying has horrible meaning.

The situation so abhorrent that many of these women are trying to hit the ‘jackpot’ of getting one of these predators to marry them so they can move to their country and send money home to family.

Inevitably these ‘winners’ often head to a life far from home and family. With a vile man who often has exaggerated his solvency.
The life some of these women live is one abuse after another, without relief.

Often, this is normal and whole generations of women live this life.

This is to say nothing of the very much busy trade in young children that some of these men travel to South East Asia for.

Utter tragedy.

This is true and happening right now.

To ask the OP if she would feel the same if husband was headed to Tenerife is either staggering naïveté or gaslighting at it’s finest.

Op- I am very sorry you find yourself in this position. I truly hope your husband does not go or really does turn out to be on a temple tour. Personally I would be asking a lot of questions about destination etc.
Be wary and take care of yourself.

Agree with this.

Sounds like a seedy trip planned.

Thailand is a beautiful country and I always struggle with squaring that and it’s sex industry. At Bangkok airport you see horrid older men with their thai younger women

I wouldn’t be happy with my partner / husband going there on a lads holiday.

AgathaCrisspy · 17/05/2024 00:22

OpalSpirit · 16/05/2024 20:59

??

Having lived in Thailand for years I would absolutely be concerned about my partner going on a men only holiday out there.

Unless they are going on a cultural tour of temples, we all know why they are headed there.

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I have worked with Thai ladies over the years, they are lovely people… They were here working to avoid the sex industry at home. They are pushed towards it by their families for the money and some of their stories were heartbreaking.
I would agree with PPs that there is only one reason this group of men were going to Thailand…

betterangels · 17/05/2024 00:22

Ilivetosleep · 16/05/2024 22:04

Right. So he's back about an hour ago. Kids all sorted and he's had his shower.
I confronted him. I've just confronted him and he started laughing. Which wound me up even more. Then he said it was a joke and he didn't book anything and told his brother and cousins he's not going. But he thought it would be funny to wind me up as I'm so gullible.

He's a mean-spirited twat. Jesus, these fucking men. Ugh.

Clueless2024 · 17/05/2024 00:24

I'd be saying Great, book us tickets too