Fiancé bought a STI kit after stag do

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I saw an email over my fiances shoulder from an online pharmacy for an sti kit, a week after he got back from his stag do. I never ever thought I’d be the type of woman who wouldn’t say anything / confront him but we are less than 2 weeks out from our wedding and I don’t know how to approach the subject. One minute I’m convincing myself he purchased it for someone else and the next I’m beside myself not knowing what to do / how I’m supposed to marry him. How should I bring it up?! What do I say?!

We do that. We don’t really get much, and what we do get usually just needs filing.

@uhOhOP Whoever gets home first opens the mail in our house whether thats me or my DH.

Me and my husband do too! Unless it's like obviously a birthday card or one of us has said they're expecting something for the other so expressly don't open but it's just another admin task otherwise. I'd be wary if my husband wasn't open about bills and bank statements etc. There's not much to hide in a healthy relationship surely!

Nothing to hide, but I don't expect to open anything addressed to anybody but me. We are separate people and I feel it is too much to open my husband's post unless I've been asked to. Utilities correspondence is addressed to us both, so I'm happy to open those letters. We might joke that we're the same person but we still need at least some boundaries, even if they are envelope-thin!

Personally, I wouldn't open my other half's correspondence but if it looked like a STI Test kit I would bloody open it because it affects me too.

I wouldn't risk getting a STI or delay an urgent test or wedding, to ensure the bastard's privacy if he was risking my health and well being with his silence. It is basically a second betrayal.

Did the op ever return?

Not since her second post on the 16th.

Yes if course why not? I don’t open my kids post as they’re all adults. But husband and I have opened each others post for almost 30 years. No secrets in our house. 99% of the post is bills, the odd bank statement and the rest is junk !

No, most people dont open other people's post. I think thats actually really rude and intrusive.

Is your husband not an adult?

Please don’t feel trapped into the wedding as it’s so close/has been so expensive. This is the next decades of your life. If you marry him and are still married in 20 9
or 30 years time, you will still remember what you saw, and know that he lied to you.

🙄. Yep and so am I and we both open each others post. I really can’t see what the issue is ! Like I say it’s more than likely a bill (both our names), bank statements (both our names) or junk .

How is it rude when we both agree it’s ok?

@Soconfused2 i hope you’re doing ok