All the single men either or constantly travelling or love hiking...I like going to b&m

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Dating apps are full of men who just want to travel or spend all their free time half way up a mountain.

Please tell me I'm not the only one that sees this?

I'd just like someone to go to ikea with on a Sunday....maybe a carvery as an extra treat. Not sweating my arse off pretending im enjoying 23 mile uphill walk

Thing is as I said on my previous post-,I don't have an issue with blokes who do enjoy these things providing they don't expect me to do it with them- I'm beyond the age where I need them around for childcare and I like space too - however as I'm 62 it's less likely guys who would like me (if I was single) would be constantly into high action sport - more likely to enjoy watching it on TV and an odd round of golf - I also am not into guys who want to constantly tramp round the shops with you

The thought of ikea makes me feel panicky as I hate it so much and also hate trying to assemble the furniture. But there will be a happy medium. People that like a walk but don't need to climb mountains. Also if you met someone there is no reason why they can't climb mountains with their friends then meet you for a coffee another day you don't need to do everything together.

But that's just dating profiles generally though isn't it. Half the ball ache of dating online is wading through the half truths and outright bullshit.

I'm sporty = picked up a tennis racket four years ago

I love cooking = I get hello fresh delivered and follow Fisher Price recipes.

I love the outdoors = I visit my local park once in a while.

I love the cinema = I watch Fast and Furious 23 the other year

Etc

To be honest OP if someone listed visiting IKEA as a fun weekend activity I would be running for the hills.

I’m all for the happy medium sort of guy. I’m not outdoorsy or adventurous so anyone who lives those pursuits and wants a hiking/skiing/mountain climbing buddy isn’t for me.
Similarly going to the gym is good. Spending 7 days a week there and all photos showing a muscle bound guy in a vest - not fit me thank you.

But equally anyone who sits watching Sky Sports 24/7 with a 6 pack of Stella is a swipe left as well.

All of those things fine in moderation but I want someone who loves to go to bars, theatre, weekends away in the country or at the seaside. I want a man who has friends and a social life because I have and I’m not giving that up but it’s finding time to fit it all in.

And actually a man who doesn’t like football would be a no for me because I actually do and enjoy going to the odd match. The legacy of growing up with a top flight team literally at the top of my road, a dad who only had daughters so took us games and me having a football mad son - it’s always been an if you can’t beat em join em

Can we swap Ikea for John Lewis?

To be fair, OLD is a minefield regardless

• lists travelling on profile = self-obsessed know
• too much gym = vapid knob
• too many selfies = boring
• too handsome = unserious, FWB/situationship
• too unattractive (or just normal) = no
• artsy = not stable enough
• under 6' = instant swipe left
• lists height as 6' = vain knob

It's hard when all you have to go off it photos and a crappy bio 🤷‍♀️

You're trying to sell yourself on dating apps, the trips to IKEA come once you're in a serious, committed relationship and live together.

My hobbies are the gym, walking, bike rides, occasional visits to clubs and festivals and travelling (not sure my love for planes would attract the men I like unless they're a pilot so that gets missed off😂). I don't say I like shopping or DIY, I might put gardening but even that's borderline.

But I do all of those most weeks so it's not exaggerating.

So one of my hobbies to attend a woman's group where I've done all sorts of courses from mindfulness to cooking to learning about anxiety etc.

Today I just finished a 10 week course and met some lovely ladies along the way and we decided to all type start a new hobby together and all shared something we would like to start doing.

You can guess what the end result was.......Hiking.

Excellent 👍🏻

Tips - go to supermarkets at the end of the day and you find the single men who work wandering about looking for food. 😂

Suggest to the group your first hike be to a retail park. 😂

Well i like travelling and going on long walks (not hikes, hills etc are not for me!) and the idea of ikea or a carvery would not endear me to someone proposing this as a fun spend of a Sunday, in fact quite the opposite!

But I’ve never done online dating as it’s so superficial, I met dh when I was working in a pub and that was it. I wonder if it’s harder these days to meet people organically?

You know they probably don't.
I met my husband through an introduction agency (no online dating then) and in his profile under 'in my free time I like to:' he put go to Tate Modern ! He later confessed he'd only been there once but was trying to be interesting.

All hiking, up mountains, cycling up mountains, kayaking up mountains, trekking everywhere…. Up mountains.

@Whatineed to be honest I think I'll do one hike....or at least try get high enough up a mountain to get a decent adventurous selfie to stick on my profile and I'll bugger off straight back down to the bottom pronto 😂 mission completed 💪🏻

Just out of interest, did you write in your bio that you love a carvery and wandering round IKEA?

Might attract the right ones if you do.

I like B&M and hiking 😀

I was talking to one guy once and I told him i like travelling, sightseeing, theatre and going out for dinner etc and he said “I like drinking wine in my house or falling asleep in a wine bar “ 😂😂 I actually loved his honesty! He certainly wasn’t pretending to be a hiker or runner lol

Definitely wasn’t for me though lol even if he’d said he likes cooking and reading that would’ve been fine but the idea that the most interesting activity he could think of was drinking wine told me we were incompatible lol

I don’t date men with kids though so I expect them to be a bit adventurous lol if they did have kids and were constantly hiking etc I may raise an eyebrow too!

P.s the ones saying they are 'travelling' are not travelling, they are just going abroad for their week or two of annual leave at a time. These guys with their exaggeration of annual leave give me the ick, I wouldn't want to date them either. Yes they have to travel to get there, but you also have to travel to get to B&M 🤣

Any guy that's actually 'travelling' (like real backpacking etc)is going to find plenty of fellow traveller women to date wherever he is going.

@Summerof2024 It depends. The last guy I was talking to spent 3 months in Vietnam on his last trip, as he was giving me tips on my proposed trip to Vietnam which I did actually end up going on last month.

Also tbf “ travelling” means different things to people, for some of my friends who say they like to travel they mean a city break to a European country every other month. It’s not always synonymous with backpacking or even foreign travel.

From the Oxford dictionary-

travelling

adjective

Going or being transported from place to place.

"a travelling exhibition of Dutch 17th-century masterpieces"

Yep, as I said (and as the definition shows) - “travelling” still correctly describes what those using up a week or so of “annual leave” are doing if they go on a short break somewhere.

So no, I wouldn’t say it’s exaggeration just because it’s not “backpacking”

I work in the travel industry, it's not all about backpacking.

I've never backpacked but I do travel, I also travel overseas with work.

İt is an exaggeration because they're using the term to imply they're doing something really adventurous other than to get an easy jet flight to Amsterdam and wander around a city for two days. Why not just say- I like going away for weekends? Saying 'İ like to travel' just makes them sound pompous and self important, because they KNOW it implies something more than it really is. Hence the MASSİVE ick factor. Shows to me they aren't very down to earth, and I'd swipe whichever way means no thanks.

Exactly this.

Not everyone thinks travelling = backpacking.

I don’t know…Perhaps they did in the past but not nowadays.

You go on holiday...