All the single men either or constantly travelling or love hiking...I like going to b&m

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Dating apps are full of men who just want to travel or spend all their free time half way up a mountain.

Please tell me I'm not the only one that sees this?

I'd just like someone to go to ikea with on a Sunday....maybe a carvery as an extra treat. Not sweating my arse off pretending im enjoying 23 mile uphill walk

@MalcolmTuckersSwearBox do you never go to IKEA to play "my imaginary home"? 😂
It's kinda a hobby......

Yes. When did this climbing mountains become a thing? I'm starting to think there should be a little hut at the foot of Ben Nevis where a matchmaker could live. It would save everyone a lot of swiping and climbing.

I once was told by women hikers, the older men were attracted to them, and they found them a pain!
Some apparently left
Not done online in years, nor will I again

perhaps I should give it a whirl.

My dating apps are full of older men claiming to love outdoor pursuits and a profile photo halfway up a mountain.

I’ve actually got this as one of my prompts

My personal hell is
An activity date. I'm strictly a home comforts in the warm sort of girl.
Hiking, kayaking, paddle boarding, bear wrestling - I'm not the one, I'll be in the bar

I guess this depends on where you live. If you are near mountains then many people will be doing 2 mountain days at the weekend, a couple of after work walks, maybe a cold water swim or a bike ride. Every single week. If you live in suffolk they are probably exaggerating.

This has made me laugh so much. I had one guy suggest 'paddleboarding or bouldering' as a date. Ludicrous idea - especially considering it had already come up in conversation how clumsy and uncoordinated I am.

I often wonder if they're either desperate to portray an image that is far removed from reality (i.e. they've been up a mountain once (in a cable car) but don't want to admit they'd much rather have been watching Netflix with a takeaway) or they actually are as 'exciting' and active as they make out and take a weird pleasure out of getting women like me completely out of their comfort zone in the early stages of dating at something they're already pretty good at. You never see these types suggesting something they've never done but I've done/already do, ime it's always something they're already 'one step ahead at' and I'm likely to make a fool out of myself doing

Paddleboarding guy was very, very keen to get me to try it and he went all the time, but balked at my suggestion of going ice skating instead as he'd never been...

I live right next to the M25 and half the men over 50 have hiking paddle boarding etc as their hobbies - no idea where they go!

People are trying to put their best foot forward, it doesn’t mean they don’t do other things. But putting I like to go to budget shopping/ food outlets and do limited exercise is not going to be something you see many folks writing to entice folks in. Although I’m with you, I like those things too.

Me too!

@MalcolmTuckersSwearBox go for it. Hours of fun. Well most of those hours are trying to find the exit......

To be fair there are a lot of women who go on crazy trips up mountains and to Sth America too!!!

When I am dating I just want someone normal like myself - bit of travel, pubs, shopping and crashing in front of a box set

😂😂 you have a point. Though I'm open to other places...I like The Range also.

What I mean is I'd just like to be with someone where it's relaxed....chilled. Not constantly pushing yourself on an adventure.

Half the men (in my case) are constantly travelling which is great for them yet say they want a long term partner.

Amazing....Swedish meatballs as a first date?

With a hotdog chaser!

not sure if that's a euphemism or not......

No they aren't hobbies that's true. I do have my hobbies that are my own and I wouldn't expect anyone else to do them - they couldn't anyway as all my hobbies are part of a women's only group!

Saying that I would go hiking. I'd probably enjoy it but I don't necessarily think these types of men are for me. I have 3 kids at home. My days of adventure are limited.

But there really aren't any types of men available!

@CleanShirt Ahh there you are.....clearly I've been looking on the wrong app 🥰

@wiseoldsnail I think there's a market here.
Ikea Dating ©
You go to IKEA and wear a specific colour lanyard.
Red = female looking for male or male looking for female
Blue = male looking for male
Green = female looking for female
Yellow = staff member..... don't attempt to chat them up - they're busy.
If eyes meet across the kitchen accessories you know you both like to cook and potentially future ❤️.

OP I also like IKEA on a Sunday 😃🤣 you’re not alone. What I will say is that I am married and my DH hates it. So I think it’s most men tbh rather than just the single ones.. more so perhaps that the single ones are being honest about wanting to just be busy up a mountain away 🤣🤣🤣 keep looking!!! Don’t give up. You could do a sort of comedy profile bio that would be good. “If you have climbed a mountain or ran a marathon in the last 12 months pls don’t message me. If you have ever been to ikea on a Sunday get in touch” I bet you’d get some replies and even better you’d know they had a sense of humour!!! X

Agree. Hiking, mountaineering is a turn off to me. Just not compatible.

(And I love IKEA, there seem to be two distinct camps)

Exactly this. My slothful brother has a profile that solely consists of pictures of him doing active pursuits. Frankly the 5 pics are the only 5 things he's done in the last TWO YEARS!! This is because he only wants slim women (despite being pudgy and lazy himself) so presents himself in a way which he hopes will attract them.

It's been a failure.

Women have eyes and he's not a fine specimen in Lycra.

He'd have more luck being honest and swiping on women who'd also want an afternoon in the pub followed by a curry. However he's obsessed with having a slim girlfriend so he's now 35 and single for 8 years.

Ugh yes.

I live in a tourist place and half the profiles it's either people who love being up mountains or, tourists who love to travel and are just passing through...many of them, also, enjoy mountains.

I don't get it.
I can enjoy the outdoors in small doses but no one, nooooo one is hot enough to get me up a steep hill, let alone fucking everest.

Ugh...I wanna go back to the city xD

Be very careful of these action men. I have been around mountain biking, running, climbing etc most of my adult life. If there is one thing i have found its that they can be very self centred people. Their bikes, their climbing equipment and their free time is hugely important to them.

They have a huge divorce rate as they tend to ignore/neglect their home lives, including wives and children.

Each to their own but i would prefer someone honest, healthy and similar interests over someone who looks great because all they are interested in is their hobby