Would you date someone (male) from the MET police?

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Interested to know, would it be a non starter? I'm female and happy (lucky) to be single but might change it one day!

I wouldn't date a policeman from any force 😉

Every man is different just the same as every woman is

What an odd world

Yes I would. I don’t ascribe to having prejudice against a man or woman because of their job, so long as it is a legal and ethical job that aligns with my values.

One of my biggest regrets is spending two years of my life with a police officer from Glasgow. Absolute vile nasty piece of work who still owes me money. I get furious even thinking about him.

Absolutely not. Past experience many years ago. Same with military. Both cheating, lying twats.

I'm married to one and he's the most respectful, kind, gentle man I've ever been with! It's a shame there are so many bad apples ruining their reputation. My BIL and a good friend are both in the force too and are great people.

Such a good point

No I wouldn’t, not just the MET though, I wouldn’t date a man from any other police force either.

There’s lots of careers I’d avoid in a partner.

Like others I’d be wary in person and avoid online. There are good cops though. I know one.

I have dated one, and I know another good bloke who is married to a friend.

However, they are statistically the profession most likely to commit DV, and let's be honest, get away with it. Men are already pretty dangerous animals and adding extra risk, I wouldn't now.

The police need to clean house. It's gone all Groucho Club. Which decent man would sign up right now, knowing what we know?

DH is in the MPS and is lovely. His colleagues are a mix though - he’s certainly seen (and reported if it’s not already known!) some nasty and misogynistic behaviour. He’s also had many colleagues who are great officers and lovely people. I wouldn’t rule out anyone based on their job, there are people in the police trying to make things better. Remember that every shocking story of a police officer doing wrong has been investigated by police officers trying to ensure justice is done.

I'd rather not.

I also wouldn't date a senior doctor or consultant again. The last one I dated tried ordering me around and spoke to me like an absolute dick if we had a difference of opinion. There was one time I explained the meaning of a word to him as he'd not got it quite right (English wasn't his first language). He point blank refused to give it any credence, even when I googled it to show him.

He was far too used to being the grand fromage.

Not a chance - my dad was a police officer (not Met) & was a cheating bastard as were literally all his colleagues (that I personally knew) including women & they all used the job / each other for cover in some way.

Definitely this

I do know one policeman (not met) who is a really genuinely lovely bloke.

But in general, when I look at the people I knew from school that went into the police or military... hmm. I'd avoid. Not worth the risk.

No, never, I know a few police officers and they are all unpleasant and aggressive people. Its the profession with the high rates of domestic violence, but on top of that action is less likely to be taken when that violence is reported.

Well you see that's the thing with rotten apples, a rotten apple spoils the whole barrel.

And no, I absolutely wouldn't and wouldn't limit it to the MET.

No

2 friends are divorced from policemen. They don't know each other, but describe the same traits in their marriages.

No the personality traits typically associated with people in those jobs wouldn't be attractive to me

What a silly statement, a few bad apples doesn’t make every police officer horrible. Look at the amount of medical professionals that have been convicted of wrong doing, should you don’t date them either?

So much prejudice, these are public servants doing a dangerous demanding job. Of course there are bad ones, like there are in any profession, but would you really write a whole group of people off like this?
If you do it because of race, it’s racism; sex, it’s sexism! What’s the difference?

Absolutely not in a million years.

I’ve just been reading about the WhatsApp message sent to other officers by a member of the Nottinghamshire Police force after those horrific attacks where two students were stabbed, and the special constable who was sacked for viewing the bodycam footage, and the police officer who was disciplined for forwarding the WhatsApp messages to his family and friends.

Based just on what makes it into the news, never mind the things we don’t hear about, it doesn’t really seem like just a few bad apples.

Married to a MPS officer. He's wonderful. Sad to read this discrimination.

I would date someone in the police if he was a good man, and I liked him - we shouldn't judge people by their jobs