Would you date someone (male) from the MET police?

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Interested to know, would it be a non starter? I'm female and happy (lucky) to be single but might change it one day!

Oh goody. A police bashing thread. 🙄

Well if they stopped being so vile there would be no need to bash would there?

It's not misinformation. That's not known information.

Thank you for sharing that, it's good to know there is a different process.

My friend was sexually assaulted by a policeman in her own home after reporting a case of vandalism. He told her not to bother reporting it because she was old enough to be his mother so no-one would believe her. He's right there he was younger than her sons.

So no I don't trust them.

A retired chief inspector friend of husbands said never invite them in. Which is pretty depressing.

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It would appear the men of the MET in particular are either liberal twerps or sexist bastards. People who are attracted to being in the force often have ego problems and are on a power trip. Unfortunately, I haven't had a positive experience with the police in my life.

When it comes to dating and relationships, you don't actually have to give anyone a chance. It's not an equal opportunity situation. You can reject someone for any reason or no reason whether you are correct in your assumption or not.

In the end it comes down to this. Dating selection can be entirely subjective for all kinds of logical or illogical reasons.

Plus, I don't suppose any police officer actually wants to date someone who thinks they or their colleagues are dodgy.

Sad to read these posts.

My experience was as a civilian with a female police officer and it was absolutely terrible. One was good. Also when ringing police call centre has been 50% extremely discourteous, 50% good. But then I’ve also bad experiences with a couple of legal aid (and paid) solicitors too.

However we NEED good police. Police cuts at a time where there is more disorder and crime has been a disaster.

Personally, I never would “not date” any specific profession. All individual merit.

My sister had that problem she dated him for 2 years and he was awful proper full of him self.
Even if we cracked a joke it was against the law to him.

When I made my complaint to the IOPC about treatment I received, I told them very clearly that the police would be the last people I'd ask for help. The senior officer I spoke to was aghast at this. I asked him what he expected given their treatment of me as person who had been harassed and abused and whose child they had utterly failed to protect. They are despicable and far too many of them have turned out to be racist, rapists, paedophiles, domestic abusers. Never mind the widespread infidelity. I am sure there are some decent people within the organisation but I have yet to come across one.

The police are more bent than the criminals i dont trust them at all a clown could do a better job.
I got called a tart by a female officer once i was 14 at the time.
She just drove past me and my brothers looked and said your acting like a tart.
We said we were waiting for our mum We were sitting on the grass area outside a shop.
Told mum she reported it but got told we must be fibbing because no officers were in that area that day.

NO.

I don’t know why posters are getting upset about this.
I don’t give a rats arse if you wouldn’t date my dh or anyone doing his job.
Why should you care?
(Dh is not in the police force btw.)
As already stated, people can refuse to date someone based on whatever criteria they like.

Oh god, I just remembered one if the few encounters I have had with the police.

I was renting a room with shared cooking and bathroom facilities (although not really a ‘houseshare’ situation).

A guy a few floors below me turned out to have been selling drugs. The police raided the house and everyone who happened to be in got driven to the police station as a formality.

That was me (had just got back from my job at a bank) and two young girls who were foreign masters students.

In the police station central area, in front of the front desk (and surrounded by police officers) a female police officer walked over to me and pulled my trousers open (away from my waist) so she could look down my trousers and at my underwear. No warning, no explanation – just assault basically.

When I protested in shock – ‘could you tell me what you are going to do before you do it’ she sneered and laughed at me. It was straight up abusive – in any other context is would have been sexual assault. I believe it was sexual assault.

I had asked to bring some books with me as I had an exam the next day. The female police officer behind the desk insisted on confiscating my glasses. When I asked why she said – “in case I tried to hurt myself”.

I was lectured that my liberty had been taken away and yes it’s not meant to be pleasant. (They all knew full well that I had no involvement in any crime and we’d all been taken in as a procedural formality – I’d been fully cooperative and friendly with everyone I met – there was zero reason for any of their behaviour).

It was over 10 years ago so I expect too late to complain now. This was all done within the main part of the station so they were all complicit.

Presumably then, nobody would date a nurse or doctor as they are all murdering bastards too, just like Harold Shipman and Lucy Letby. Or not touch a builder as they’re all tax fiddling unreliable dodgy bodge-it men….. Honestly. It’s the person who is the problem, not their job.

To be honest, putting dating aside, I'd probably not even consider being friends with someone in the police, man or woman.

No.

Because

1. the hours. the shiftwork life would not work for me.
2. several friends work in police force and from what i have heard from them first hand, just nope. All (female) friends have left.
3. the MET is institutionally bad. that of course doesnt mean eveyone in it is bad, but im too old to bother taking a chance.

I used to do exactly this also when I was OLD. IRL it's different - you may have mutual friends etc so you have a bit more info about them. With online dating, men are such an unknown anyway, I felt it was worth being extra extra prudent.

It was also about lifestyle, I didn't want a partner who had shifts/deployment/danger etc etc in their life.

If he's a prick no. If he's not a prick yes.

Absolutely not.

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I wouldn't dismiss someone outright because of it. But military / police 'types' just don't really tend to gel that well with my personality and I don't find it attractive in itself (I know some people like the uniform etc but I'm not bothered about all that).

I wouldn't say 'I won't date you because you're a police officer', but I just think it's unlikely we'd have enough in common.

My stepdad was a policeman.
He was wonderful until he married my mum and then he changed he was awful.
His ex-wife told my mum by letter not to do it but she said she was just jealous.
It was all about how he could get away with things because he was an officer.
We were scared stiff of him.
He would spit in our food wave his batten asking if we wanted it etc speed in the car to scare us threaten to drive in rivers with us in the boot they were the good days.
While he had a number of affairs with other officers.
And alway said he was above the law so no one would believe us.

3 years later my mum went to womens aid after he had beaten her again.
A lovley female and male officer helped my mum at the aid center to build a case against him.
He did go to prison for 9 year and she has a life long band on him He did such awful things to her.
27 years on.
My mum never re married and stayed single and moved to a small village.
My mums old now but she still fears the police.
Dont know what happened to him and i dont care.
Not all police are bad but he was.