Would you date someone (male) from the MET police?

[Givemeonegoodreason]

Interested to know, would it be a non starter? I'm female and happy (lucky) to be single but might change it one day!

I wouldn't touch military or police with a barge pole.

I'm sure many are lovely, but the rates of casual infidelity and domestic violence in those circles are high enough that most sensible women will avoid.

Absolutely not.
I would hate for my wonderful daughter to get in any involved with police or army.
There are good people in both services but I certainly wouldn't want them near our family.
Too many abusive men in both.
I have friends who were children of very senior officer's in both.
They ran their perfect homes and children like extensions of their regiment and naval ship.
Chilling.

Wouldn't put all people into one category, regardless of occupation. However police work in any force comes with the shift pattern of earlies, lates and nights, cancelled rest days, difficulties in getting leave, cancelled leave, overtime, finishing shifts late (and probably many other shift work jobs have these issues as well).

On top of that, even the most pure hearted person would undoubtedly be affected by the shift pattern, the things they deal with at work, possibly some ptsd, and generally seeing the underbelly of society all the time. I definitely think the job changes people.

It's a tough job and I'm not discrediting upstanding officers, I couldn't do their job. But the job makes family life and relationships strained at best.

I met my ex before they joined the police, was with them for 10 years and we're now separated. I wouldn't date a police officer again.

Funnily enough my own occasional interactions with police have been 100% positive.
Kind, gentle and very helpful.
I think the MET cases and the general reporting of so many toxic abusive officers, and stories on MN, have made me very wary.