Who else has to ask permission to put the washing machine on?

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We do have solar panels so cheaper to put washing machine on during the day.
When I've got mountains of washing, sometimes i just want to bung it on and try to get through it all. I have to say to DH "I'm putting a wash on this evening so don't have a go at me." He then tells me that it would save money to wait until the day. I understand this but as we have loads of washing at the moment, that's not enough to get it all done before school goes back next week. I've told DH that it's weird and old fashioned for me to have to check with him or ask him to put a wash on like I'm some sort of servant. I said that if he insists that I can't put it on this evening, then he'll have to manage his own washing this week so I can focus on getting mine and the kids done. Honestly, it's like living in the fucking Victorian age in this house sometimes with him being the head of the household.

This is not about laundry.
This is not about utility bills.
This is about a man being immature, moody and controlling.

Not only are you doing him a favour by doing the washing you have the added difficulty of trying to manage it at a time he wants it down? I'm sorry OP I would stop doing his washing altogether and say you only have the capacity to manage your own with the new timings as you don't want to accept the added effort he's imposing on you

Are you totally off grid?

If so, then the washing machine pulls a lot of energy. Do you have your oven / stove etc running at the same time?

Nope. Tell him to go fuck.

Argh he’s ridiculous

In a nutshell.

This. I’d be going and running it with just one sock in, just to make the point.

I wouldn't do any washing or would take it to the laundrette and say fuck you to the twat.

I hope you don't do his, never iron and turn his TV etc off at night

My ex husband used to have “opinions” about the housework that he never made any attempt to share in doing.

I used to respond with “ YOU HAVE NO JURISDICTION HERE” which worked quite well, but not as well as divorcing him did.

No.
I would not pander to that.
If he wants to put the wash on in the day, let him, but I'm guessing he wouldnt.

If a job needs doing, it needs doing.

We have solar panels and storage batteries. We do time the dish washer, washing machine etc. to make best use of the free electricity.

Just pass over the responsibility for laundry to your H.

Panels don't store energy. A lithium battery does. Not everyone has them.

If they have no battery then I agree, it makes sense to use the bulk of electricity pulling straight from the panel in the day.

Having a solar set up does make one so much more aware of power usage. I'm thinking this is the husband's issue.

I'm thinking that his issue is that he's an utter twerp.

Oh that is interesting - we have batteries here so I assumed everyone did!

@Darhon i know nothing about their lives but I doubt everyone else on here also knows the OP and they seem to have a stronger opinion on the matter than I did don't they.....

Is it because I put forward a different view away from the echo chamber? Ive just asked DH as he is in charge of washing as I've already said and he says he would put the washing on when it was cheaper and use a timer if needed.

First thought is he's an arse and this is a shit way to live.

However I know nothing of the technology or energy situation and how that works.

DH asks me but that’s because he changes the bedding and I do most of the washing. So he will ask if he can out the bedding on or I’m I wanting to put something else more urgent on. If he doesn’t put the bedding on then I will pop in on later in the week.

Well I suppose it makes sense that you'd use the washing machine when it's cheapest but if you need to use it outside of that time, then go for it! Your H is being a total dick! Stop doing his washing. I've never done my DH's, and now my kids are grown, I don't do theirs either, and haven't done for years.

OP isn't this a larger issue? The fact that you seem to want or need his approval or some consensus, that you don't like the thought of displeasing him, that you don't want to experience the hassle of what he puts you through when you disobey something quite small?

Is that his reaction most times when he doesn't get his own way or something isn't done to his exact method or liking?

Sounds tempting

The batteries are the heavy expense part in a solar set up. So some people put them in at a later stage, so won't have the stored energy.

He's obviously much better at doing the laundry than you so why doesn't he take over the laundry from now on?

I wouldn't tolerate his nonsense. If my DH were to moan to be about something like that I'd just mildly point out that he can do it himself if he doesn't like it. He soon shuts up.

Do you only do one load a week? I do around 5