Who else has to ask permission to put the washing machine on?

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We do have solar panels so cheaper to put washing machine on during the day.
When I've got mountains of washing, sometimes i just want to bung it on and try to get through it all. I have to say to DH "I'm putting a wash on this evening so don't have a go at me." He then tells me that it would save money to wait until the day. I understand this but as we have loads of washing at the moment, that's not enough to get it all done before school goes back next week. I've told DH that it's weird and old fashioned for me to have to check with him or ask him to put a wash on like I'm some sort of servant. I said that if he insists that I can't put it on this evening, then he'll have to manage his own washing this week so I can focus on getting mine and the kids done. Honestly, it's like living in the fucking Victorian age in this house sometimes with him being the head of the household.

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Wow. This is bizarre. I'd tolerate this off my DH for about 2 mins before WW3 would start when I came to my senses.

No permission asking here. But we have baby twins so my husband is just glad our washing mountain is being reduced 🤷‍♀️

Then you have even bigger problems. Why are you married to this man child?

What a fucking big baby he is. How cringeworthy. Why hasn’t he learned any adult communication skills?

And let me guess, all the laundry’s left to you and the Big Man doesn’t sully his hands with it?

If I wanted to stay with him (though I think this would massively give me the ick), I would give him a very stern talking to - once only - in which he would be told in no uncertain terms that I would be putting the laundry on as and when needed. I would be mindful of the solar hours and would try to work around them, all things being equal. But at times that’s not possible, it just isn’t and the laundry will be done in darkness hours instead, as needed.

That I will practice the normal autonomy of any adult. That he will NOT rant or sulk about it, being an adult himself. Or go on and on like a massive drama queen as if a load of laundry cost a king’s ransom. And he will think himself fucking lucky he doesn’t have to do it himself.

Any deviation from this and it’s a deal breaker. You are NOT having it.

He’s taking the absolute piss. Stop him.

Im kind of with your DH here. We usually put a big load on at the weekend but with British Gas doing their half price energy on a Sunday I told DH that the weekly washing on a Sunday as it saved money. The washing is his job in our house.

It didn't always work out and we had the odd wash to do (usually uniform) in the week but on the whole we managed to get all the washing done at a cheaper rate.

If it saves money and 99.9% of the time you can do it. Why not put the washing in at night and on a timer for the day. Best of both worlds.

What a pathetic man baby. I’ve never asked permission from a man to do any household chores and hell will freeze over before I ever do.

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You know you're in a controlling relationship, right?

Can you afford it? If you can, I'd be telling him that he isn't your manager, you aren't the staff, and he doesn't direct your work.

Just for fun, doe she do all his chores to your exact specifications? Does he have chores?

Maybe he has a point?
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Can’t actually believe I am reading this.
Christ, I hate some men
Fortunately, they are not all like this

We also have solar panels and I put the washing on whenever I like. I'm not convinced it makes much difference price wise anyway as unless the weather is shite the solar panels charge the battery and then washing machine runs off that if it's dark. In winter/poor weather we charge the battery overnight when it's cheap. What I do try to avoid is washing (and especially tumble drying) while cooking as that's too much load without having to pull from the grid.

What a revolting man child.
Dear lord.

You know what my husband says when I put a wash on? Thank you. I do the laundry, everyone in this house is very fucking grateful for having clean clothes and linen and that’s the only way it’ll carry on happening.

Stop tolerating this.

Do you not have a quick wash program on your washing machine? How much washing have you accumulated if you can't get it all done in the daytime before next week? Were a family of four and I can easily get through several washes in a day.

I’m not sure he is correct. Electricity is usually cheaper in the hours of the night when not so many people use it. And solar panel electricity I’m sure isn’t only available when the panels are getting sun into them.

??? It's not just OP's washing... Presumably she's doing her share by looking after the dc and house. Are you OP's h??

OP

Do you enjoy throwing money away? That is what your DH is trying to avoid

You may want to say, no I want to do it now becuae or you can do it. Money may not make you happy but itsure helps and throwing money away is not good

We never dry our clothes in the garden, use drier even in summer as clothing comes out softer and fresher - we have both discussed the bills and both agreed that we are ok with it

So have a chat, comprimise

He does not have a point. She's doing an essential household chore for the family. What do you mean "who pays the utility bills"?
It's a family.

How do you know anything at all about her life. I work a job with a commute. I have no tumble dryer at the moment and it’s pissed it down pretty much daily for over a month. I did my wash on the only day it was dry and I was in the house to hang it out. It was irrelevant whether it was Sunday and I’d got so much I did do a load in evening ready to go out the next morning and to allow me to do other loads that day.

Absolutely bonkers. If he wants to act this way then leave it 100% up to him.... but this is an extremely unattractive trait in a man and I couldn't live with it at all

Exactly. "Thank you that we always have clean clothes. Thank you for unloading the dishwasher. Thank you for cleaning the bathroom...." That's normal.
Ffs. What a horrendous situation to be in to ask for permission to do a basic chore for the family.

THe solar panels store the energy and you can use it when you want to, surely. Or are solar panels where you are different to the ones where I am?

I thought solar panels fed a battery that stored electricity - so you don't just use it when it's daytime, so it doesn't matter when you put the washing on?