Boyfriend always asking for money

[Banana1979]

In Jan this year I got on with a new partner who was working
we were talking on and off for quite awhile before that
unfortunately he had an accident at work in early Feb and has been on ssp ever since
he has no children.
he lives about 20 miles away, so not too close, and we see each other about once a week. I go to his when DD age 9 is at her dads or nans
lately he has been asking me for money money for his Internet bill money for his food money for cigarettes. I feel awful saying no, but there are times I have given him money. I’ve just looked in my bank account and I’ve counted so far £600 I’ve given in total since Feb
£50 here £100 there £30 here it all adds up. I have said to him today a fat no short on money myself. His Internet has run out because he didn’t pay the bill last month and he is messaging me saying he’s fucked. He has no cigarettes or Internet.
I am absolutely livid with myself for giving any money to begin with, as I felt bad he couldn’t work and it would be bad to dump someone for basically losing their job through an accident
and I am even more livid with myself for being with a man who could think it’s okay to ask his partner for money for cigarettes and Internet when he knows I have a child
I said to him today, I don’t feel fucked if I don’t have money for my Internet I just get on with my day however he saying he’s suicidal because he cannot smoke or watch the TV
I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at this. It sounds so ridiculous, but this is what I am being met with. I think I should dump him but i don’t want him doing something stupid
yesterday he asked if I could do a food shop for him via Amazon, fresh but I just don’t have the money. Both his parents died a few years ago and he has no siblings or extended family which is making me feel bad every time I say no
I have said to him today that I have a daughter, I need to think about and any more money I get in future I need to be going on her or in my savings account and not on him
he isn’t my responsibility
I refuse to answer the phone to him today, because I know he’s going to ask for money and I said to him I did not answer the phone because my mum came round which she did, and then he sent me a message replying that I am full of excuses
I don’t know what excuses he is talking about, but his finances are not my responsibility. I am going to dump him but is there a way of doing it gently . This is affecting my mental health

Tell him to do one, block the using tosser and put your daughter first. He’s taken that money away from her.

Why on Earth are you putting up with this?
He's just using you.

The hills >>

Run, don't walk

Don’t worry about doing it gently, people like this usually have another victim before long. Enjoy life without him bothering you x

Dump him and don't look back. He's playing on your sympathies. He knows he's playing on your sympathies.

And then to pull out the suicide card because you're not giving him money. That's a low down emotional blackmail trick is that. It will only escalate if you stay with him and you'll end up getting into debt and your family will end up doing without just so he can have internet and fags.

He's an adult, responsible for his own financial management. Even if he can't work, he'll get some sort of income. It's not your problem he can't manage that and he shouldn't be expecting you to subsidise his lifestyle choices.

You're well past the stage of feeling guilty for dumping him because he can't work. You're now dumping him because he's a fleecing, lazy, selfish git.

Or you could just say to him it's not working for you anymore and that your feelings towards him circumstances have changed and you have to put your family first.

Dump him pronto. He's using you, and is already being manipulative. And block him.

What a manipulative POS.
Dump and block.

Oh don't worry about him doing anything to harm himself. He's not worried about you having enough money to feed your child, is he? As long as he's got cigarettes...

Send him a message saying you've added it up and he's had £600 off you and you can't afford to see him any more. Then block him. He won't come to your place as he won't want to spend the money on travelling.

You know what? He'll be back looking for a job in the morning.

You’ve only known him three months and he’s basically living off you? You have to end it.

Dump him after you've told him that you expect him to pay you back £600 from the compensation which he should be receiving from his workplace accident.

Dump and block immediately.

Don't give him another penny.

Next time he mentions feeling suicidal tell him you’re phoning for an ambulance for him.

Dump and run.

if he threatened suicide 101 and a welfare check. That’s the end of your involvement

Dump and block!! Fucking hell, come on now, he’s taking you for a complete mug.
Stay away from men until you work on your self-esteem.

Just end it, sounds like whether you do it gently or not he's going to be a dick, so no need to be nicey nicey about it. He's hardly a new partner if you've only been in a relationship since January anyway, he's just some guy you're dating who is trying to take advantage of you!

he is probably eligible for UC.

tell him to check his benefit entitlement and then dump him

£600 !!! ffs !

don't refer to him as your partner, he is a recent boyfriend !

and you can now make him your x boyfriend.

dump this user fast, you owe him nothing !!!

Block and move on; you shouldn’t have given him any cash - he’s a user.

I'd send him a link to a local food bank / pantry and then block him.
Clearly he's looking for a meal ticket, so that's what I'd give him.

Stop being a mug, and stop throwing away money that should be going to your child! FFS. Dump and block, immediately.

You’re being romance scammed in plain sight. Hes not even trying to hide it.

Every penny you give him is money you’re taking from your child.

Stop being mugged off, Tell him to fuck off and find another cash point. Freeloading ponce. And you see him once a week - ffs i guarantee you’re not the only one hes mugging off.

Wow £200 a month, does he usually charge those rates or is he doing you a special discount. Seriously though, he is scamming you good and proper. Block him and move on, you will be one of many he’s playing like this.

Why on earth did you give him so much money in so little time?? That really crazy. I'm glad you've realized now.

Just dump him. Give him an excuse if you want but block him and try and work out how you let him manipulate him like that. That money should have been yours and your daughters.

Dump him NOW

So you gave him money for his internet bill but he still didn't pay it. He's a user Op, a total user. Don't worry about the suicide threats, they all try to guilt women by saying they'll kill themselves. You have a DC, save your money for feeding them, he can live without broadband and cigarettes, it will do him good to give up smoking