Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

Awww who says romance is dead ❤️

OP there are loads of British Moroccans in the UK. Go to Ladbroke Grove.

You can't possibly know who the real man is after 2 weeks and having never met him.
He's mirroring you to build a connection, and he's probably done this many times before.

Be very careful, there are very informed posts on here, but it looks like you’ll end up learning the hard way.

Hopefully you have had a lucky escape with the video chat this time, but let this be a lesson to you.

NEVER EVER take your clothes off on camera or for photos for anyone. Ever.

It is monumentally stupid. Life, relationships and people are all unpredictable. But photos and videos are forever.

Just why would you do this? You haven’t met the man. You’re exposing your body for his titillation online ? It’s beyond grim.

Let's throw in she's recently had a baby and he's feeling needy

Earlier you said he was Muslim. Which is it? Did he suddenly change?

Older ✔️
Single mum ✔️
Naive/vulnerable/lonely ✔️
Can't actually meet in person . ✔️
Gets her tits out on film ✔️

Ffs. Why do you think this very attractive young morrocan man is looking for women in the UK, op?

This really does sound like a scam. I worry you will be back on mumsnet in a few months time saying that you should have listened to everyone. Sigh.

This sounds like a textbook scam. The parent in hospital is classic. It can be hard to see when you're in the middle of it, but that's because they groom you with weeks of innocent chat first.

And even if it isn't a scam, realistically, where can this relationship possibly go unless you move to Morocco, or you help him come here. Time to cut your losses.

Have a listen to series 2 of Love Bombed on BBC Sounds. It's about a documentary about a woman who thinks she's in a relationship with someone she speaks to online, which turns out to be a scam and he asked her for money. He had also taken screenshots of their intimate calls and used them as blackmail when she came to her senses and stopped giving him money.

He is doing a really good scam number on you OP. You are already defending him and believing what he says just 2 weeks into this and also rewriting your original post to put him in a better light. On YouTube there are scambaiters such as Scammer Payback, Kitboga and Scam Sandwich who can show you how social engineering works and how you have fallen for this in a big way.

The thing with long distance/only talking online is that you don’t actually know the real person. He is moulding himself to be the guy you want him to be and it’s easy to hide the real him when you aren’t spending time together in real life.

Loved that someone used the word titillation in their post!!
Seriously you can't be fond of him already op. You really can't.

Keep us all updated.

And without being rude OP you need to raise your standards - your comment that you trusted him because after two weeks he hasn’t talked about sex it asked you to take your top off is setting your bar pretty low.

OP, have you tried reverse searching the hospital picture on google?

I think some folks are sadly just lonely and desperate for a relationship, the op clearly knows deep down, hence her reaction, but she’s intending on ignoring that in the hope it’s real.

You do sound naive to be honest OP, you know nothing about this man and have no way of determining if what he's telling you is the truth. Whatever else he says, don't be emotionally blackmailed or guilt tripped into sending him money! You really need to be more careful about doing sexual things on camera with strangers - as you feared, it can leave you open to all sorts of blackmail and coercion. I hope this has been a wake up call for you!

Bloody hell @LucyLaundry You are right. My maths is shocking! Almost as shocking as this poor OP blundering about with Moroccan Scammy Love Rat.

I've just spoke to him on the phone, I told him I was worried as I hadn't heard from him after the video call. He then said he should be more worried as he didn't hear from me either and he was the one that got more intimate during it.

You're either making this up or you're very, very trusting or you're actually in some way vulnerable.
What on earth makes you think this has any sort of future that would include an actual 'relationship' OP? Seriously how do you see this progressing beyond screen wanking and silly talk?

Oh dear.

I hope for your sake you are going to grow up and cop on to yourself.

Well the Op clearly does not want our advice as she has since spoken to him on the phone, so we can wait for the updates over the weeks/months.

Is it going to be financial or will he be moving in...

And?