Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

Is the '84' in your username also your year of birth? You came on here 'worried as hell'. It seems possible that you are 30 and online dating looking for a decent partner. Instead, you are panicking because you are embroiled with Sketchy McSketch Face. It is a scam, he is dodgy - and even if he isn't, he surely isn't the best of the crop on 'International Cupid' fgs? If he is the answer, you are def asking all the wrong questions.

Op is there by and chance a age difference too?

I actually know a woman who talked to a guy who lived in Morocco and ended up moving out there to be with him. She was my brother's ex, they had a child together and she just got obsessed with this younger good looking guy. Long story short she moved out there to be with him had a child and now he is awful and beats her. I mean not saying it'll be the same just a mad experience I've witnessed. He was also very sweet and incredibly good looking ..

So you and he are just going to continue masturbating to each other over Zoom? Doesn't sound much like a relationship.

without meaning to be offensive, I’m concerned this person thinks you’re vulnerable as I’d say at least 9/10 people simply wouldn’t be bothered to chat to someone via a dating app who is on a different continent. Because the majority have better options (be that chatting/meeting up with friends and family etc) or if looking to date online, messaging ones who live near enough that you could meet up. So simply by giving him your time it tells him something about you and your life and perhaps that you are lonely or lacking in other options etc. And that’s before we move onto your most recent video call and the fact he knows you were willing to do that online. Apologies if that’s completely off the mark and I don’t mean it as a criticism more as food for thought - I think a lot of us have felt this way at one stage or another.

Equally, why is he willing to sink lots of time chatting to someone he’ll never meet in real life.

At best, if I was a friend of your and you asked (which I appreciate you didn’t!) I’d say it’s pointless and potentially harmful and perhaps might be better for you to spend your time and energy on other things. Hope your fears about this video call do not come to pass.

A former work colleague got cauught up in something like this. I don't remember how she started "chatting" with a man from the Middle East, but it all escalated and in the end she was sending him £500 here, £500 there for hospital treatment for his mother. I'm sure she did it out of the kindness of her heart, but the man concerned was a cynical manipulative fraudster who caused a nice person a lot of distress.

I think there are men out there who target naive, kind hearted women who are a bit vulnerable/lonely/lack self esteem etc. I'm sorry if this sounds judgy about you OP, but to go looking for romantic/sexual thrills on a site called International Cupid is not the action of someone with a fulfilled personal life. In my opinion, the "stories" these men tell are set up in advance, they lay the ground work - its like going fishing and preparing your bait before hand. I think his father being in hospital is a tale he had planned and has probably tried out a dozen times before.

Please, please step away now. Join a hobby club/Meet Up group or whatever and meet some "real life" people you can form connections with.

Thank you everyone, I am definitely going to take all this into consideration. You have definitely made me be on guard.

Maybe you should stay off international dating sites before you're added to a sucker list somewhere OP.

Chalk it up to experience and don't get your boobs out in front of a camera. Unless you're charging for it.

Op you seem really naive. I hope you haven’t shared pictures of your child with him. I say that as this is screaming scamscamscam. Your connection isn’t real. This is textbook scam, reel you in and then the shit starts. Come on, if you fancy wanking on camera to a stranger, go for it, but don’t think this is a potential relationship ffs.

I do have connections in real life, I'm actually casually seeing someone in real life but it's early days.
I'm just very physically attracted to the Moroccan guy , we can talk for ages and he is 100 percent my type physically. Unfortunately I don't find the local men as physically attractive as they don't have the dark eyes, skin etc

It doesn’t mean you go exposing yourself on camera. To anyone in the world.

I’m pretty sure there will be plenty of darker skinned atheists on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble etc if you look hard enough!!

OP - please watch ‘for love or money’ on BBC iplayer. Its a whole series about online romance scams.

Also be aware that scammers share information so you’re likely to be targeted repeatedly once you’re on their list of naive victims.

You need to come off these sites and be very aware of not making same mistakes again. Flashing your tits to a stranger online while he wanks is never a good idea regardless of how attractive he is (if it’s even him)

2 weeks and he has you starting to perform like an animal. Don't be relived he has spoken to you now, be very very wary. I would be blocking this guy not continuing contact with him or buying into whatever take he is telling you. Even if it is true about his dad, moving forward what do you actually think he wants from you? It isn't a happy very after, it's a live can show whenever he fancies cracking one out.

When you say you have a lot of the same views, this is mirroring, OP. He is taking his cues from you and saying what you want to hear. Please talk to a friend in real life about this, they will help you.

Where in the U.K. do you live? Any of the major cities, particularly London, are majorly diverse so you’ll find the physical attributes you’re looking for there with just a few swipes of an app. You absolutely do not need to be considering international dating, just go to London!

Agreed. It's textbook. OP, please look after yourself. You have no idea what he's about. Besides, what's the point of physical attraction when you can't actually touch them, ever? -- if for a minute we agree that he's genuine?

Maybe he didn't want his wife to see the video.

Some mothers do ‘ave ‘em.

Literally every news story you read about women getting scammed by foreign men starts this way. And they all have this sad, dumbfounded look on their face when they bleat “He was so gorgeous and I thought he fancied me too, we shared all the same interests and outlook on life…”

Open your eyes and find a bit of dignity.

Did he reciprocate with a video of him with his hands down his trousers??

Fond of him? After 2 weeks?

I despair.

40! She's 40 and doing really stupid things online with a stranger.

What advice would you give your son OP in the few short years he will be a teenager doing similar?

YESSSSSS!!!!! MEGA ROMANCE SCAM ALERT!!!!!!!

I think you need to be careful op. Sounds like he's going to scam you and also if it's an iPhone you can screen record, so he could have basically recorded the whole video chat without you knowing

No he responded with a shot of his penis ejaculating

Yep. If on the smallest off chance he’s really who he claims to be, then he’s married to a nice Moroccan lady and just wants a bit of no strings online fun with a willing western girl.