Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

There's a bbc podcast called Love and Other Lies. It's a comedy but all about romance scams. Have a listen OP. It's roughly how one works that could start in your situation

WTAF are you talking about these ppl are not perverts 🤣🤣🤣🤣

*Showing your breasts and touching yourself online to a stranger you’ve known two weeks is really trashy.

Have a bit of class*

I hate to break this to you but all over the UK on a Saturday night, women are sucking and fucking men they could have met just that night.

We have a casual sex/hook up/ONS culture. Most western developed countries have it to some extent of other.

I don't think we're culturally in a position to be slut shaming op about showing a boob and a bit of mutual masturbation on a video call.

This thread seems to have attracted a right shower of cunts.

We can warn the op without behaving like you are.

I'd bet most of the women enjoying themselves slagging the op off have done way worse drunk with a man they didn't know for long.

The added verisimilitude of a photo of sick daddy in hospital is another red flag. Why does he need photographic proof of this?

Girl you have done nothing wrong that effects anyone else but yourself if you felt happy at the time doing it that’s your business it happens we are human don’t worry about it

@pearpporridge it is possible to have self esteem and be attracted to someone and it turns sexual , that is not a measure of someone's self esteem . I know myself and actually I do have self esteem, if I didn't , I would be going out with any old person who shows interest and I don't

So many judgy comments on here, about the fact that I was very attracted to someone and it turned sexual after 2 weeks of video calls , Jesus! Feels like I'm living in 1954

Reverse search that photo op.

🤣🤣🤣 exactly

It's a good point.

One would imagine most people would want to keep something like that private/within their family until they got to know someone way longer. It's a strange thing to share.

With a bacon sandwich and petting his dog. Muslims consider dogs unclean.

Op, why don't you just go to Rome etc. for a holiday or message Italian men?

Apparently in Rome they are quite commonly hounds after women.

@Xenoi24 thank you. Yes alot of slut shaming and some misogyny going on here, and I barely did anything and had my underwear on. Maybe it's cos I'm older, how dare a 40 year old woman think she could attract a 28 year old man.

You wasn’t cheating on anyone so many ppl judging I wounder how many have skeletons in the closet let alone tell anyone or want advice on it ummm ? You go girl

Im not bothered at all about the video call… I agree that there’s a lot of old fashioned misogynistic slut shaming going on on this thread!

Im more curious though OP, what’s the point of this thing with the Moroccan man? You’ve said you wouldn’t move there, so are you hoping it develops into something and he moves here? Or you have some kind of long distance thing where you each travel back and forward? I just don’t get it I suppose!

Oh cmon it’s not just a 28 year old man, it’s a 28 year old Muslim man in Morocco you’ve never even met. A complete stranger. You’ve no idea of his real situation or motives. No one is this naive surely. You’ve not even met him and have no clue what this is about, a few hours ago you thought he was going to use compromising images of you.

What was in it for you then? Genuinely baffled at your definition of what "turning sexual" means. Very few people are slut shaming, as you call it. Just trying to warn you that you need to be more careful as a seemingly quite vulnerable person with a young child.

10 hours ago you were completely panicking.

The poster is just trying to shame you OP. It's quite possible they are a man who enjoys expressing misogyny in this way. The language they use suggests this, as does implying you are a predator. They often do this on MN to try to push an agenda that women are 'as bad as men'. You've already said you're blocking the guy which is great, so end of, and nothing more to say. I'd ignore the braying of those who just want to put the boot in.

I'm definitely did not intend to shame you. I want you to play chess here. How do you see this going/ ending? What's your agenda here?
How could you minimise your anxieties while dating?

@GrazingSheep yes because I thought he had blocked me. And then my imagination started working overtime.
I don't like how some people are telling me to have some class etc and acting like it's the most abnormal thing in the world to have a video call with someone that turns sexual , as though it's disgusting. It was someone that I am very attracted to and have spoken to constantly the last 2 weeks.

It's not about being judgey or a 'gran' (I'm only 6 years older than you by the way and get mistaken for mid 30s as well).

I've done my fair share of OLD, I came across a fair few degenerates (the unsolicited dick pics, the sexting, the one wanking on a video call was the absolute pits, being offered money for sex was just grim). These men pick out the women that are easy pickings that will satisfy their current needs. I remember being called cold and hardwork as I didn't appreciate the photo of some man's erect cock. Not once did I respond in kind. If they want to pay for someone to have sex with them they can go to a prostitute, if they want to talk dirty, they can call a chat line.

You are giving them what they want, if you are happy with that you wouldn't be on here posting about it.

Not misogyny or slut shaming. It’s the fact that you think this behaviour is normal. It isn’t. Apart from the fact you’re undoubtedly being scammed, why demean yourself to this level?

Do you not see how desperate and tragic it looks? You’ve ‘known’ this guy for 2 weeks. You’ve never met him. He is laughing at you.

I wasn’t slut shaming you OP. Like I said, fill your boots, get the ride. I still think your boundaries are off though as you seem to think 2 weeks is a big investment, and that you can’t be scammed because you’re not overweight. I don’t know why you can’t see that a bloke not turning things sexual in 2 weeks is not the green flag you seem to think it is. You seem very vulnerable and that’s what other posters are picking up on, I think.

The thing many of us are saying OP is you have no idea if the man you think you’re attracted to is who you’re really chatting to. That’s where the issue lies - there’s a strong chance he’s not a real person. It’s someone’s photos being used to create a deep fake video chat.
It’s learning to read the red flags that were so obvious but you chose to ignore that’s the concern.

By all means have online sex with anyone you chose but meet them in real life first otherwise you’re leaving yourself open for scamming/abuse