Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

Brace for the messages about medical bills.

Totally get why yous are all trying to warn me, I can see what it looks like from an outside point of view, i just didn't put 2 and 2 together.
Thanks for looking out for me 💕

Drinkypoos 🤮

OP, you haven't met in real life. For all you know he could be 17 - not an adult. You cannot assume anything he has told you is true.

There is always a risk that any intimate photos or videos of you could be copied and shared online. Even photos you think are safe in your phone could be on the cloud and subject to a hack. Or photos on your work laptop (yes it does happen more than you think) could be accessed by someone in your IT department and shared online.

If you are posting nudes or sexual images of yourself online there will be a man somewhere downloading that. There are men who create vast private servers of explicit material both professional and amateur. When reddit and imgur removed pornographic content last year there were joint efforts online to scrap all the sexual images and videos posted on that site so that nothing would be lost and they would still have access to these images.

There are sites where men trade rare content and trying to get rid of explicit images of yourself online is like playing whack-a-mole. Even men women thought they could trust have shared this kind of personal content with other men.

If you feel horrified at the thought of images of like that circulating online then do not take them and certainly do not post or share them.

Having said all that with AI it soon won't matter what you do, men will be making and sharing explicit images of us anyway.

I'm so glad you've decided to block him. It had nowhere to go but heartache for you. I'm very relieved for you x

You sound as ignorant in the ways of the WWW as my 14 year old granddaughter. no, it’s ok, it’s just between us
No it’s not, it’s between you and him and the whole fucking world
Educate yourself in the fact that every action has a consequence.

Well, next time, if there is a next time ever with him or someone else, make sure that you take some screenshots of him too so that you have an insurance policy should they ever threaten to share. Tbh though it sounds like your video was too boring to share compared with all the other hideous stuff out there.

@lizzielizard thank you, I appreciate the concern 😊

@TheSnakeCharmer thank you , if it ever came to it and he tried to blackmail , I will pretend I have screenshots of him. But yes I think the video was pretty boring tbh

And you believed him 🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s great you’re blocking him, but I’d ask you to think about why you engaged in such foolish and grubby behaviour .

I mean this politely but I’m actually embarassed for you. You’re 40, proclaiming yourself to look a decade younger, and getting your tits out and showing some random young bloke in Morocco you touching yourself and watching him wank.

tne question here is why? It’s clearly not you’re some predator. Or is it?

You can’t educate spam.

@JJathome no I'm not a predator , wtf. He's 28 not 12.

It's a good thought but he won't care as the video was probably AI and not even him. He said he works in IT after all.

Nibbles 🤢

That's a good point. I doubt it is even one guy doing the scamming. I bet there is a group of them.

Everyone on mumsnet claims to looks 10 years younger than their age.

Oh, OP. I think this is one of the saddest threads I've ever read here on MN. If my daughter or niece had written this I'd be so concerned about her self-esteem. You need to meet people in real life, OP. Anyone can be anything, or anyone, or anywhere on the internet. Don't trust guys on the internet.

Edited to add: Just read that you're 40. Speechless...

Re him claiming to be an atheist Muslim (lol); I suppose one way of proving that he is non practising is to insist on having an alcoholic drink during the video call, especially during Ramadan.

This is one thing that people don’t seem to get. I hear so many who have been scammed saying ‘but we did video calls’ - and AI/deep fake is SO advanced now that it’s ridiculously easy for scammers to convince the victim they’re chatting to the person on the screen rather than a team of scammers.

Honestly through work I’ve seen so many AI videos and they’re absolutely convincing. Scamming is HUGE business. There are massive call centre type places scamming all day every day.

Shirley Valentine step up and receive an award for 2024....

It is indeed very sad. She is totally going to get taken advantage of.

OP you need help with your self-esteem before you get completely mugged.

In the future op please please be more careful. It's easy to be swept up in the moment. I can tell how upset you are with posters but stop and think. If it was a friend of yours in real life what would you say to them. Most likely the same thing all the posters are saying. No one is bashing Muslim men or Moroccan men but these men are very conservative. No way would they engage in this activity with a women they would want to settle down with. Don't cheapen yourself. You deserve more.

WTAF

😂

This. If you told a friend a relative was ill would you feel the need to send a photo to prove you were telling the truth. Of course you wouldn't. It's just part of the well trodden path of scaming.