Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

Don’t feel bad, try and let it go, and make sure your face isn’t in the shot at the same time as any body parts if you do it again

Is that as high as the bar goes for you @Doodleflips?

@Doodleflips thank you for the lovely comment 😊 I'm getting battered on here

My very smart, beautiful 30-something friend got taken in by an online scammer. He had a good job in IT but unfortunately his mother was sick with cancer. They talked for months on end but he could never come to meet her because yaknow, sick mother etc. She sent him topless photos and he sent her a bouquet of flowers. If he sent her stuff, he couldn't possibly be a scammer could he? It was all part of the grooming and by the time he finally asked for money, not for himself but for a 'cancer charity' he'd set up, she was well and truly 'in love' with him. As her friends we spent weeks trying to convince her he was a scammer and just like this thread she didn't believe what anyone said. She 'knew' him and we didn't. Thankfully she didn't lose too much money before she saw the light but her rock solid belief that he was genuine, was a result of being carefully groomed.

I would say very attractive is a bit of an overstatement for the women on the tinder swindler. But I agree that is not just overweight older women who get scammed. The women on the tinder swindler clearly thought they were going to get their hands on his supposed fortune. How wrong they were.

Dear God I wonder why>>>????. 🙄

2 weeks of video calls and there’s wanking and showing of tits (even ‘demurely’). Sounds desperate and utterly sleazy.

Modern life is rubbish.

Exactly this.

Just be careful OP

There have been a few very vulgar, derogatory, superior, nasty comments about the cam "sex".

Unnecessary & cunty.

I do think that he sounds dodgy though.

Why not go for Southern European men who are unlikely to want money, visas, or have the religious and cultural issues?

OP - you’re not being battered. You’re bring given very good advice that you’re choosing to ignore by claiming you’re too slim and attractive to get scammed.

But hey it’s your life and your choice to ignore red flags - hey ho

OP you feel you don't have enough proof that he is a scammer because he hasn't asked for money (yet). Like others have already mentioned, if you have a very sick parent in hospital would you take a picture of them (with or without yourself in it) and send it to a stranger you only known for a short time? Why would you do that?
The easy answer is to show what you say is true but why would you need hard evidence when just chatting to someone on a dating site?
Why do you think he did that? Do you think that was a perfectly normal thing to do?

Don’t feel bad, try and let it go, and make sure your face isn’t in the shot at the same time as any body parts if you do it again

Yeah, I mean, why not get a gimp mask and then you can really go for it as much as you like with total peace of mind.

OP, you keep saying if he asks for money you will know you’re being scammed, but that scenario would end in one or two ways, either you’re even more in love with him by then and you reason with yourself that you trust him and send the money, or 2, you decide to cut him off but hurting yourself even more in the process, because you will have developed deeper feelings by then and the disappointment will hurt. Just cut him off now, it won’t end well.

I was wrong. I hold my hand up and admit. He got his canadian citizenship about 6 or 7 years into the marriage. He is still amazing to her. She is unable to work.. she has no money. She was living in a geared to income home. Now she has a lovely house. That he works for and pays for. So I was really really wrong. BUT that being said.. this is rare

Whether he’s a scammer or not, raise the feckin bar for yourself.

Showing your breasts and touching yourself online to a stranger you’ve known two weeks is really trashy.

Have a bit of class.

Or at least make an Only Fans account and don’t give it for free.

You're very silly. Protect your son and put him out of harm's way at least if you're lacking the skills to protect you both.

Other than that, knock yourself out, I don't care.

@MarygoldRose a pervert for having a consensual intimate video call with an adult , ok whatever you say.

Frustrated much?

How?

No, but what he's doing is pushing your boundaries - nudge nudge nudge - getting you committed to him, making a 'connection'. You'll feel 'closer' to him now you've engaged sexually with him, and seen him with his poor sick Dad, aww... It's all designed to get women in 'the feels'...

What have you got out of this so far from him? Is it just attention? This, too, is to soften you up... Honestly, please take care of yourself.

I don't know if anyone else feels the same, but "intimate" is up there with moist, gusset, snuggle as ick words.

Alarm bells. Be really careful. Don’t be a passport wife…

If he’s that good looking… and 27… you know it doesn’t add up.

Don’t let your heart rule your head though it sounds like you are already doing that.

There are a ton of Arab males in this country. You really don’t have to look very far.

But Mustapha the Deliveroo driver who lives and works in Croydon or Barnstaple doesn’t sound nearly as romantic as the 27 year old good looking Moroccan who is still allegedly a virgin and didn’t bother to get in touch for 2 days after you gave him enough to get off.

Do the maths. It’s not complicated. You’re fantasising and quite naive.

Good luck with the broken heart that’s coming.

I suppose he could monetize the sexy video in some way, on some website, somewhere - but that would be separate and apart from the romance scam and/or blackmail scam.

Yep!! 😆😆