Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

No you crack on love. Don’t take any notice of those of us who see this on a daily basis from a professional perspective. None of us have overheard this story before……..,oh wait!! Every middle aged divorcee who remortgaged their house for a random bloke on the internet thought they were too savvy to be scammed.

You seem determined to believe this bloke who has proved what a catch he is by not asking to see your tits for a fortnight.

I hope we’re all wrong but when it walks and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck

And even if, BEST CASE SCENARIO, he's ''genuine'' and doesn't have a 'long game', do you think he's going to say ''mum, dad, this is Chloe who i met on the internet, she's not muslim no, um a few previous boyfriends I'd imagine. She's English yes. um yes I believe she drinks, sometimes?

DISASTER

It's good to be smart and wise about romance scams, OP.

Your danger though is that you think you're too smart [for it to happen to you]. And this is what gets people in the end.

Be smart....but never think you're too smart.

Islamophobia and the Fetishization of Arab men all in one thread.

If the OP is for real it's probably better she learns the hard way. You're wasting your time.

Absolutely.

Be careful, as others have said you don't actually know him. He is someone you have been chatting to online for a couple of weeks. You tell us how the conversation moved on to the sex thing but you need to remember that you have no control over what he does with any images videos etc.

Sadly, you're probably right

💯- I’ve seen families call the police about their mum being scammed and even had their bank accounts frozen yet the woman insists she would never be so daft.

oh, his Dad is in hospital!

Oh, buckle in!

Yeah this. ^ I am hoping this is made up. (Not saying it is btw!) I just hope it is, because otherwise it's really worrying.

Because this is a scam.

£2000 more like!

Then he will start needing more money for 'hospital fees' as an admin error in the bank has stopped him accessing his money. 🙄 'I just need £750 darling...' Then 'Oh no the costs are more than we thought. I need another £1250 please dear. I love you. You are beautiful.'

Please say you're not going to this again?

You don't know him or anyone else from the internet from a hole in the wall!

And read up on what can happen online!

Serious question @Worriedashell84 Why, oh WHY are you not taking any notice of everyone on this thread warning you, and telling you to block this man? What is wrong with you? You can't seriously believe he is genuine?!

Everyone should be wary of interacting with people online that they've never met. That's the bottom line.

There's no need to add the trope about Muslim men seeing European women as less than. As if Muslim men are one homogeneous group. It's racist and uneducated.

If you want to be specifically derogatory towards Moroccan men, go ahead. But you can't tar nearly a billion men from all different parts of the world with the same brush.

Not directed at any one poster, it's the tone of the thread.

You're not listening

Not a bit. A lot

As a student in the U.K., dd and her housemates regularly had young boys of no more than about 10, from Muslim families who lived in the same street, shouting, ‘Dirty white whore!’ after them.

Anyone who likes to imagine that such attitudes are rare, is painfully naive.

How will you respond when he threatens to post the photos you sent him OP? Demanding money or they get uploaded? You were quite anxious in your first post so what's changed?
Is it everyone confirming that he ticks all the boxes for a scam / blackmail so you're reacting against all this? Given that you've a child, surely protecting yourself and him should be your first priority?

@Worriedashell84 · Today 08:17

I genuinely believe his father is sick, he's just showed me a picture of him with his dad all hooked up. I told him I hadn't heard from him and he wrote back that he's been to visit his dad and sent me a photo.

Oh dear.....

This is not his dad. It's just a random photograph of a man in hospital. PLEASE @Worriedashell84 wake up and smell the scam! This is all just sooooooooooo 'textbook.' I am cringing for you.

I'm physically attracted to Pierce Brosnan. So?

This bloke is probably in contact with loads of others

Wake up!

OP - What else do you know about him? What is his level of education and what work does he do? Morocco has very high unemployment. Do you have anything in common aside from physical attraction? Do you think he will want to visit you in Uk (and then hope to get the inevitable resident's visa via marriage?).