Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

I am a sucker...

Precisely. And you're not going to listen. So as my mum would have said... don't come crying to me when...

Oh yes THIS! ^ These men always have a sick relative in hospital. Won't be long before he will have an issue with his bank account, and will need a few thousand £££ for medical fees. Beware @Worriedashell84

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@Worriedashell84
When he ejaculated on camera for you to see, how did you feel about that? What did you say to him?

Ewwwww. 😖 I didn't realise he actually ejaculated on camera in front of her.

Put me right off my yogurt now that has.

Oh done worry he'll definitely be using the video to blackmail you - as soon as you tell him you can't send him £20 to help his poor father with the vital medication that you can't get in Morocco.

You sound really, really unselfaware. The wise thing to do is to end it. It's going absolutely nowhere and you 'enjoying' whatever it is, as if you're some easy-going chick who just likes a flirt with some dusky young guy, is total delusion. Do you think all the women who get scammed are different to you? Wake up, OP. You've already got yourself in an unintended tit-exposing video wank, got yourself in a massive panic, and now you're all Ms Cool "No way will I get scammed, I just like chatting to young Arabs, I'm really picky and savvy IRL".

The best place this can go is nowhere. The worst is a lot worse. And fgs, just as you're objectifying him for his ethnicity and youth, he'll find it a helluva lot easier to objectify you as a desperate middle-aged white woman who'll be reeled in easily for wanks, porn, money transfers, visits, visas, you name it. Do you really think he's a sucker for your type? Or is there only one sucker here?

This is the most frustrating thread I’ve read for a long time. I’ve concluded this is made up as noone could be this deluded, naive and shallow.

OP please engage your brain. This is a job to him. Targeting naive women for extortion. You are a tab on a spreadsheet or in a database to him. All your likes and dislikes recorded. Make sure all your social accounts are locked down. They are a good source for these men to find out information they can use to form ‘connections’ with their targets.

Op. It's six months time. You have been having a lovely online romance with him. His Dad was doing really well after heart surgery but suddenly takes a turn for the worst. He needs an urgent operation but it will cost £4,560. Your boyfriend needs to raise this money in two days otherwise his father will die. What do you do?

OP: If this is real (I have my doubts) then you sound hopelessly naive.
Also, I find your constant fetishisation with his looks/race very distasteful.

You are a tab on a spreadsheet or in a database to him. All your likes and dislikes recorded. Make sure all your social accounts are locked down. They are a good source for these men to find out information they can use to form ‘connections’ with their targets.

Worth repeating.

@RosaMoline how is me having a physical type that I prefer distasteful?

LOL nice one

How does he make a living OP? Does he have a good job in Morocco? If he does then he should never have to ask you for money. If he doesn't he is not a great prospect for a happy future together anyway.
Let's say it's not a scam. Let's say he is genuinely interested in you. What's the future plan here? Are you just never going to be together? Would you up your life to live in Morocco? Could he come to the UK... without your financial help?
There are of course many genuine Moroccan men who are not scammers but the odds are staked against you. I would like to think they wouldn't ask you for a sex show or naked pictures or money.

I feel sorry for your 7 year old child.

Thanks. I’m sure he’s definitely head over heels in love with a 40 year old single mother in a foreign country that he hasn’t even met. I’d bet my house he’s married and the next step is asking for money . I’m so glad I don’t work in banking , it really must be so distressing to watch financial scams played out each week.

@Lovelyview if that happened , I would know it was a scam and he was just playing the long game

I'm sure everything will be ok, he didn't seem like a sleaze to start with and you didn't get your face in it. Don't worry, but please learn a lesson and don't do it again!!

It is possible that this man is real... and yet has every characteristic of a romance-scammer. It is unlikely though.

-Scammers are very careful to share interests and attitudes with their target.
-They need to be good-looking but apparently innocent/inexperienced/lonely.
-The romance must progress at a good pace. (Two weeks is pretty fast though.)
-They must introduce a needy/sick person in their background early on. This is probably the thread that will develop into need for money later.

I think (like all above) that this is a fantasy.
Enjoy it for what it is OP... and be very very very careful

💯- and this information will be shared to other scammers to target naive vulnerable victims.
Even if this one doesn’t end up asking for money - and btw it’s not always actual cash it starts as gift cards, items from Amazon etc - then in a few months time another sexy young Muslim man will suddenly appear wanting to meet an older white woman and the cycle will repeat.

@Worriedashell84 let me highlight this for you and please don’t EVER forget this

YOU DONT KNOW THIS GUY FROM ADAM. He can tell you whatever he wants you to think and you have no idea what is truth or not, what his motives are on anything

a lot of the Muslim men won’t be able to sleep with their local women, so tourists or gullible women online are a solution

from living in a Muslim country before, I know that many young men practice on other young men.

he could have filmed you, prob not, but either way there’s nothing you can do about it, so learn from this and never put yourself in such a vulnerable position again

Why can't I take someone at face value until they show me otherwise? I literally have no proof he's a scammer.

He's probably got an arranged marriage lined up or he's married already and he's looking for fun, money etc. This "relationship " is going nowhere.

And that’s exactly what’s happening but you’re happy to continue to be groomed because he’s attractive - if indeed this is the man you’re talking to.
These scammers are so sophisticated they can fake video calls using AI and deep fake images

Oh yes the gift cards and saleable goods.

You can absolutely just carry on and see what happens but after two weeks you are already fretting if he's out of contact for a day, you feel you share so many of the same points of view, he is gorgeous. Will you really be able to resist helping him out with some cash when the man you are forming such a strong attachment to is in difficulty?

You can take somebody at face value, that's your decision but you told us that you have anxiety. You're anxiety was caused by trusting somebody who hasn't earned your trust.