He's high level manipulative, isn't he?
You found him using cam sex sites and buying only fans content, but somehow the resulting situation iis your fault and he can't trust you.
He can't relax and talk openly to his friends now. He can't trust you with his password now.
Lol, he's been caught out at some very inappropriate sexual behaviour but so ehow he's not at fault at all and you're the bad one.
The one he can't talk openly in front of, the one he can't let have access to his phone.
Like you're at fault!
Listen, he's at fault. Your reactions are completely normal.
The "discussion" should not be around whether he can talk openly to his mates or "trust" you with his phone password.
It should be around his inappropriate, hurtful, sleazy, line crossing, disrespectful behaviour .... His general attitudes ..... and about how you can trust him!
He's very nicely turning offender into victim and vice versa.
He's so utterly selfish and entitled and lacking empathy, he's focusing on the inconvenience to him; not the hurt, disrespect, discomfort and ick etc to you. While you grow and birth and feed his fkg kids.
Sometimes on here I fantasise about violence towards a poster's h/p. I'm sure I'm not alone ... He's definitely making the cut for that.
He needs told this behaviour is inappropriate & unacceptable to you, that it would be inappropriate and unacceptable to most women, that it would be so to his friends partner if they knew abd that of he persists in continuing with it, he will be a single Dad
That if he continues with it, intimacy with you will not be an option.
That his friends can do what they like ..... You're not with his friends.
That his friends wouldn't have partners either if they knew.
That you know they'd never take reverse behaviour like this, but you're happy to test that with some male cam actors and models.
That you are naturally concerned about the underlying attitudes of him and his friendship group .... And that most women don't want to be with a man of that ilk.
That if he ends up single, he'll just have exactly the same issue with his next partner ... When she finds out. He's fooling himself if he thinks otherwise.
That if he thinks your next partner will do the sane, that's his prerogative but it's not a sure thing and they can gtfo too if they think it's ok and do it.
He needs the riot act read to him, instead of indulging his selfish, distraction/deflection nonsense about talking to his mates and not trusting you with his phone pw.