Dumped, but he's text. No contact or reply?

[Soggybuiscut]

I've just been dumped over the phone about an hour ago by bf of 3 years.
He's now text me some love hearts... Mind fuck.

Do I reply, or ultimately go no contact and just ignore?

I'm obviously in turmoil and want him back, but with perspective do think I deserve better.

Omg! He's messaged!

'How you doing?'

I'm fucking in pain and trying to move on from you you gigantic arsehole!

Don't. Just don't. You've got this.

"You dumped me by text last night. Remember?
I am on the sofa wondering WTF.
That's what I am doing.
You get ONE chance to explain before I block you.
ONE chance"

Ick...he's fucking grim.

Obviously everything is all about him and his ego.

I'm betting he expects you to keep begging for him to come back. Sod that for a game of soldiers.

Seems to be getting off on the idea you're pining after him. Don't even respond.

He sounds vile. I.was dumped over the fone. Relationship of nearly 2 and a h years. Had fallen in love .with someone else at first sight. I was in shock and very upset. He contacted me a few weeks later with BS re I nice woman etc and could I send his spare keys back🙄 I remember saying silence will be my biggest weapon. I did not respond. Was and still is empowering

Don't text him back! Read your cons list again - he's terrible and you are worth SO much more!

You also say this • Once shoved me to the ground in an escalated fight.

That's assault....

I would just text back saying “Good thanks. Let’s post our personal belongings back to each other in the week. Take care”.

I think that shows you gives less shits than not replying does.

Just block him!

Block him, that list of cons is horrifying. Literally no good comes of out replying, and if you need to get things back/return his then you could go via a third party.

Reread that horrific list of cons please @Soggybuiscut

His use of prostituted women is repulsive. Using another human without regard for true consent.

He physically abused you.

He is no loss. He’s a worthless person.

This is fine too.

But if you flat out just don't reply then in a week or so time, he'll be freaking out that you're moving on, unbothered. And that'll totally fuck the egotistical prick up.

And each time he messages and gets no response, it'll be a 'fuck you' to him.

So...one 'fuck you' or...make him suffer even longer xD

Re-read your list. Why oh why would you want to be with this man child?

Block him.

Respect yourself.

Good Lord!
What on earth do you see in him?
Sorry have not RTFT but did you have an abusive/ chaotic childhood Op?
That's one of the reasons you may be in a Trauma Bond with this man.
It's characterised by the hot/ cold behaviour he shows you plus the highs and liows of the drama.

This is potentially going to fuck you up emotionally and financially for life if you go back.

Why the fuck does he get one chance? He's attacked her and he's a druggie.

He is an arsehole. Shit partner. Shit dad. Selfish lying addict. Manchild to boot.

do not respond at all.

I feel like I've never set a boundary with him and for ONCE I did and he's dumped me for it.
it will absolutely be this. He will probably ask you to get back together once he os certain you wont ever question hom again.

No surprises there. Stay strong.

No reply will kill him

Don't reply. Turn your phone off. Chill with your mate..order takeaway..watch gilmore girls! Boss!!

He was always going to message. He's given you this treatment because you dared to bring up the drugs. It's a punishment but no way he meant it. He will be furious if you ignore him.

Block him so he can't text you again and upset you. When you are ready you can unblock him to arrange practical things like exchanging your stuff.

Keep rereading your list if you feel you miss him. He's an abusive coke head who thinks women are commodities to be bought. You are worth so much more

Get rid! He's done you a favour. What a cowardly way to end it. Look after yourself!

I hope the quietness isnt because OP has messaged him...and I hope its only because her friends around.

Hi guys, I can happily confirm I have not replied - my pal brought food round, we cooked together and have been laughing a lot. However she's just left and I checked my phone and...

He's sent ANOTHER message!

This one:

"Still feeling really numb about the whole situation. I'm so sorry it worked out this way, had never seen this as the outcome. Had some of the best years of my life with you and you've been the best girlfriend i've ever had"

Get. Lost.

I've left him unread for both messages btw - just read them in notification window.