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Dumped, but he's text. No contact or reply?

230 replies

Soggybuiscut · 22/03/2024 22:13

I've just been dumped over the phone about an hour ago by bf of 3 years.
He's now text me some love hearts... Mind fuck.

Do I reply, or ultimately go no contact and just ignore?

I'm obviously in turmoil and want him back, but with perspective do think I deserve better.

OP posts:
LadyBird1973 · 26/03/2024 20:20

No woman needs a 35 year old junkie in their life. He's absolutely not capable of being what you want and need in a partner - no drug addict is!

I think it's time to block him now. It's not giving him more attention than he deserves, it's just an easy fix to prevent you from being exposed to any more of his bs!

And please take a pp advice and get your licks changed, if he's ever had access to a key!

LadyBird1973 · 26/03/2024 20:21

Locks even!

5128gap · 26/03/2024 21:10

Just be careful OP. This is the easy part because while he's still messaging then you know you could get him back if you wanted. So the feeling better is in part due to knowing that, and that it's only over as long as you want it to be iyswim. Things may get a lot harder when he stops messaging as that's the point it really is over and the last tie is cut. If I were you I'd not wait for that to come and set you back. Blocking him everywhere is the sensible thing and more important than 'not giving him the importance' as who cares about that really? What matters is going cold turkey and starting your life without him in it at all.

Catandsquirrel · 27/03/2024 11:08

5128gap · 26/03/2024 21:10

Just be careful OP. This is the easy part because while he's still messaging then you know you could get him back if you wanted. So the feeling better is in part due to knowing that, and that it's only over as long as you want it to be iyswim. Things may get a lot harder when he stops messaging as that's the point it really is over and the last tie is cut. If I were you I'd not wait for that to come and set you back. Blocking him everywhere is the sensible thing and more important than 'not giving him the importance' as who cares about that really? What matters is going cold turkey and starting your life without him in it at all.

This is an extremely good point. I'd just block everywhere now too. It's not amicable mutual realisation that you're better off as mates or a simple going your separate ways. He's trying to make things messy because he is messy. Don't be left feeling bereft when he suddenly withdraws.

AhBiscuits · 08/04/2024 17:32

How are you getting on OP?

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