On being called a "pricktease"

[BimbledAgain]

The background is we've been dating a couple of weeks. We've not dtd yet but are indulging in some heavy petting on the sofa. I'm not ready to have sex and call a halt to it when he begins to push for way beyond what I want. Later he calls me a prick tease for not following through to sex and tells me it's wrong that he had to go home and masturbate. We later discuss his 'pricktease' comment and he apologises.

Fast forward a few weeks and our relationship is fully sexual (and it's great - amazing in fact), but another discussion ensues where he tells me I shouldn't start any physically intimate activity if I'm not prepared to follow through to full intercourse or if I don't tell him upfront that it's not going to end in full sex, so at least he's prepared to not expect that outcome. Once again I'm called a prick tease for what happened in that original evening.

I find the comments highly disturbing. Is this really how people conduct themselves sexually. I can't imagine ever imposing such obligations on another person for something that to me should happen organically and without expectation.

He's a creepy misogynist entitled creep. Get rid

Just to be clear (for anyone reading this really)

This is a nasty word some men use when a woman exercises her right to say no or stop.

That's all there is to it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Sadly taken in context it is all geared toward coercion....the pricktease comment and comment about it being wrong that he had to masturbate were just the start ... he would have wanted me to have sex with him when I wasn't ready and didn't want to, just to be "caring" towards him (with the obvious implication - no sex - I don't care). I'm struggling to get my head round anyone why anyone would ever reach the conclusion that was okay. And why it's solely about his needs and the 'caring' toward me, the woman (who let's face it is the one who has to go through an invasive act she doesn't want) just doesn't figure in his thinking.

Seriously, where do you women find these men?

I've not heard the term pricktease for decades and it's a good awful term.

"it doesn't matter what the person says,
it doesn't matter what the person does,
but it does matter how they make you feel"

applies here.

his lack of ability to exercise any sexual control such that he puts you under obligation to give him constant warnings because he can't read the situation is deeply unpleasant and unattractive. It's definitely not normal behaviour and you shouldn't put up with it.

They're everywhere.

Congratulations on making the least helpful post in the entire thread.

I shouldn't start any physically intimate activity if I'm not prepared to follow through to full intercourse

Jesus. That would be a strong fuckity-bye from me. I wonder what his stance is on affection and if he's going to turn into one of those men who never want to be affectionate unless it leads to sex. I'd also be wondering if his opinion would lead to future sexual abuse, to be honest. It's perfectly normal for couples to have a playful time touching and kissing without it leading to full penetration each time.

@Telemakus They're everywhere. It's called male entitlement and misogyny, and is the reason why we still need feminism.

And they don’t wear signs saying ‘I’m a misogynistic prick’ they present themselves are decent blokes til the mask slips.

I accept all superlatives.

What a nasty and unhelpful comment. Shame on you.