@shuggles
"What exactly can you lose with men? If a man is unemployed and takes your money, then yes, you can lose that, but the majority of men have their own jobs and finances.
The majority of women are in long-term relationships or are married. I don't really understand what the appeal of men is, but if so many women want to spend time around one, is it fair to assume that they have some kind of benefit?"
My ex's have cost me plenty of money. Perhaps I was foolish in my choices, but they were all well educated, business people with high incomes. I was 'treated' a bit at first but ultimately I ended up paying more to be in the relationship than they did. I think they were all attracted to me because I'm also a high earner and independently minded, capable etc. They were men who saw themselves as progressive grown ups and thought they wanted an equal as a partner. But that was really just a fantasy- men never want their partner to be an equal - and they all ended up taking advantage.
I've also paid a price in terms of mental/ emotional loss over the years. Firstly during my relationships - they were all without exception a drain on my mental state in the end. Demanding far more attention, consideration, time and energy than they ever gave back in return. The amount of misery I endured is just crazy when I look back. But I kept on keeping on for ages with them all, putting up with far too much for far too long because I always thought it was my fault. I just needed to try harder, spend more time trying to make him happy etc.
It took me a long time to learn that once men fall out of love they either have an affair or turn nasty. They're too lazy and entitled to leave. And mine all ultimately fell out of love with me because they thought they wanted an equal but didn't really and came to resent having an intelligent, independent partner so punished me with emotional abuse.
And secondly, I've paid an emotional price which continues to impact me even though I'm now single. I hate men. I hate saying that because I also hate misogyny and yet I'm guilty of misandry. But I see them for what they really are - selfish, self absorbed, immature, ego centric, sex obsessed, emotionally abusive, rapist, violent, perverted, child abusing, war mongering, blights on society.
So why do so many women pursue relationships with men? What possible appeal can they have when we all know they are inherently bad - that as individuals there is an absolutely huge risk of them doing us far more harm than good, and as a class, they are simply abhorrent in every way?
It's all down to the biological imperative to reproduce. If there is a God, they really were having a laugh when they set this up. Make men disgusting but make women feel they can't live without them and let's see how they all deal with that!