Dating thread 246 - Spring Dating

[SamW98]

Continued from 245….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

[cassiatwenty]

Yes! Thanks Sam, watching

[TobyEsterhase]

Doesn't feel much like spring where I am.

I have had a grand total of 1 date in the past year but am planning to ask a former colleague out for a meal.

She only left on Friday and I was on holiday so texted her to wish her all the best. Her reply ended with a "x" which I am taking as a good sign.

Will probably text her to ask around Tuesday. Thinking best to get straight to point and avoid stream of messages as "friends".

[tryingtohelp82]

@TobyEsterhase

Doesn't feel much like spring where I am.

I have had a grand total of 1 date in the past year but am planning to ask a former colleague out for a meal.

She only left on Friday and I was on holiday so texted her to wish her all the best. Her reply ended with a "x" which I am taking as a good sign.

Will probably text her to ask around Tuesday. Thinking best to get straight to point and avoid stream of messages as "friends".

Oh god, are men taking kisses as signs of interest!? See this is why women can't even be friendly a lot of the time.

[2anddone]

Hi just checking in, thanks for the new thread.
Not currently on any apps planning on going back on them at the end of the month...taking a break for mental health.

[cassiatwenty]

@tryingtohelp82 Please don't frighten prospective suitors. Everyone is welcome here. You can't possibly judge Toby based on his one message he posted. Pipe down.

[friendswiththemonstera]

I'm so sick of all my chats dying...hoping to go on a date at the weekend. There's one guy I find really interesting but he isn't messaging back much.

[Chocolatefreak]

Hello all. Yes, I agree with you @cassiatwenty . @TobyEsterhase you seem to be going at a respectful pace. Good luck!

Out of my irons, I still have Mr Bohemian going who has now just postponed our next date until later next week. I postponed the last one so he's entitled to. Left me a nice message saying he really wants to see me again and asked about my weekend, so I think he's genuine.

I will meet Mr Geek for a drink next week sometime. I don't think I will fancy him but I like his measured responses so I'm prepared to be charmed when I see him in person. Plus he lives nearby and we might become friends if not romantically interested.

[tryingtohelp82]

@cassiatwenty

@tryingtohelp82 Please don't frighten prospective suitors. Everyone is welcome here. You can't possibly judge Toby based on his one message he posted. Pipe down.

Everyone is allowed an opinion on here so pipe down yourself.. surely this thread is for positive and negative experiences?

[Chocolatefreak]

@tryingtohelp82

Everyone is allowed an opinion on here so pipe down yourself.. surely this thread is for positive and negative experiences?

This thread is meant to be about supporting, not intimidating, people who are dating. You can express your opinion without being aggressive/putting someone down. Your comment to@TobyEsterhase was unjustified.

[blacksocks33]

Hi again everyone!


So my date from last night text me but it was quite short and not suggesting rearranging...
I also noticed on his tinder profile his location was further away so he's obviously chatting/swiping with others. This is obviously expected but just makes me think it's not as promising as what I thought it was!

[Cantabulous]

Placemarking

[lizkt]

Ugh, well I'm new here but good to know I'm not alone. Guy on Hinge arranged date last night for tonight and he was all keen but by this morning he had unmatched and blocked. What is that all about?

[SamW98]

Well after being called the wrong name last night I’ve had a message today but he’s been doing his hobby all weekend and ge worked all last weekend. I’m away next weekend so I just can’t see our schedules matching up to ever arrange a date and tbh the longer it goes on the less I’m feeling it.

Still flicking through bumble but feel like I’ve swiped left for every man in a 50 mile radius

[friendswiththemonstera]

@lizkt

Ugh, well I'm new here but good to know I'm not alone. Guy on Hinge arranged date last night for tonight and he was all keen but by this morning he had unmatched and blocked. What is that all about?

Edited

Possibly back on the app very quickly after a breakup and either he realised he wasn't ready or his ex wanted him back. I don't know why people are so discourteous though.

[Starseeking]

Thanks @SamW98, hopefully this will be thread on which I can finally report back that I have met a decent guy! ;-)

[Chocolatefreak]

@SamW98 that's disappointing. How about a call? Just a chat on the phone is sometimes enough to help you decide...and it might keep the momentum going a bit.

[SamW98]

@Chocolatefreak

@SamW98 that's disappointing. How about a call? Just a chat on the phone is sometimes enough to help you decide...and it might keep the momentum going a bit.

Gonna be honest I don’t see this guy had time to date. He works long hours and is on call as well plus this hobby is full on and is a full weekend once a month.

He messaged about 4 to say he was on his way home, I replied after about 40 minutes and he’s not replied since. Tbh I’m not feeling it’s worth pursuing someone who has almost no free time

[Browniesandcustard]

I’ve a couple of irons in the fire so to speak. Mr Tall is the most promising and have met him a couple of times. Totally lovely but is in the middle of moving house and (understandably) is quite stressed out by it all so won’t be able to see him again for a couple of weeks because of commitments we both have. Mr L I had to postpone from Friday as I lost my voice and felt rubbish so seeing him on Wednesday.
I know some people haven’t had great experiences on Match on here but so far I’m finding it ok - lots of chats, more then Bumble.
Anyway, fingers crossed that some of us graduate from this thread before it becomes 247 - good luck everyone!

[blacksocks33]

I can't lie I'm ending the day feeling really down.
My date from yesterday never replied to my text this afternoon... and reading back the message he did send me... it was very short and not really conversating which you would expect after date 1.

I just feel so disheartened being ghosted.... again. If this guy, or anyone, just messaged saying they weren't feeling it etc... I may feel sad or whatever for an instant but I would feel so much better after... but this ghosting is just so painful and it happens to me over and over again.

I'm just really starting to believe that this isn't going to happen for me because I don't know how much more I can keep putting myself through this ghosting situation :(

[Pepsimaxedout]

So I am back from my date with Mr Local Shop (he recognised me in the spar while I was buying some milk as being on Match!). He was lovely. Good chat, lot in common, very respectful. But...... I dunno. There was just a but. He's another one just out of a long relationship and after my last experience with one of them, I am being very cautious.

I still have a phone call with Mr Beard (he has a nice beard!) planned for some time this week. He is very easy on the eye but he is one of these crazy ones who climbs up hills in the rain at 6am on a Sunday morning. So not sure how much we have in common 🤣.

[Mountainormolehills]

I have deleted the apps, still casually FWB with 1, plus 1 sort of on the sideline, hoping that I will see him again as the chemistry was there. In the meantime I have returned to a hobby that is great fun - so hopefully this plus seeing my friends will help ease any loneliness. I feel so much better for deleting the apps, I still have more work to do on myself and I’m not ready for a proper relationship

[NervesOfCotton]

blacksocks33 Really sorry that it didn't work out for you. It's so crappy when this happens, isn't it. However much of a thick skin you think you have developed, it still gets to you doesn't it. Know that it isn't you, it's him. I hope you are ok

Pepsimaxedout Glad you had a good date!

[Getitgirl]

Woke up to a match on hinge. He asked me a question I had already answered on my profile. I responded in kind and he swore at me. Instant un match from me.

This afternoon he sends me a connection request on LinkedIn(!) I never told him my surname (obviously)

what the hell is wrong with some people? I’m going to build a fort in the mountains, grow my hair out and join a bloody commune at this rate.

[VanillaSox]

Hi just checking in -hoping for Spring frolics for everyone. I can’t bring myself to do anything on apps /have been on and off Bumble but not actually messaged anyone. So many horror stories on here and from friends in RL. I do meet a lot of people in the wild, which is how I met my ex, MrFunnest, tho’ no-one I fancy enough to pursue yet…

[Bowbobobo]

@blacksocks33 im so sorry about the ghosting, it’s shit behaviour and feels shit. Please be proactive though by blocking and deleting. Don’t be available for further fuckwittery down the line.