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Stories of stingiest first dates

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frtedsbed · 29/02/2024 15:02

Just comparing experiences here at a friends ... jaw dropping stuff!

Mine asked me to transfer money for a coffee and cake after our first date which was a walk and feeding the ducks.
I thought we were going for lunch ... that was the original invite.
Another asked me to transfer money to r a takeaway having offered to pay for my child and I , as he stayed at mine every weekend. Both ended there and then !

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Getitgirl · 29/02/2024 15:15

Mean with money, mean with love.

i dated someone briefly who bauked at the cost of blíster plasters (after I had forked out for our post hike meal). I didn’t date him again 😀

Hoxite274764 · 29/02/2024 15:22

Men who have at first arranged to meet for a meal/drinks but then refused to go into the bar and tried to turn it into a walking date.

Men who have sat with me in a cafe but then not ordered anything themselves

KohlaParasaurus · 29/02/2024 15:26

A classmate at university invited me out for a bike ride and a picnic. When we went into the shop for supplies before setting off he said, "Let's make this a frugal picnic." The worst of it was that I went on to waste the next three years on him and he didn't improve much in that time.

Woodyandbuzz1 · 29/02/2024 15:32

KohlaParasaurus · 29/02/2024 15:26

A classmate at university invited me out for a bike ride and a picnic. When we went into the shop for supplies before setting off he said, "Let's make this a frugal picnic." The worst of it was that I went on to waste the next three years on him and he didn't improve much in that time.

What did the frugal picnic include? 😄

SamW98 · 29/02/2024 15:33

The one who turned up for an afternoon coffee date wearing a suit and tie, ordered a glass of water and a coffee and when the bill arrived just sat there with his hands in his pockets waiting for me to pay. Then had the front to message that evening asking if he’d what I’m looking for

SamW98 · 29/02/2024 15:35

Another one who told me he would pay the bill - I did offer to split - then said he was paying on his company card and claiming it back on expenses

Moonlightandroses44 · 29/02/2024 15:35

I’ve never once agreed to a ‘walking’ or ‘coffee date’. For this reason!

SpringleDingle · 29/02/2024 15:41

A guy asked me out for dinner and said he'd book us a table. I arranged to meet him in St. Albans town centre and he took me to Pizza hut. I'd already let him know I was happy to go Dutch so wasn't expecting him to pay my way. Then he asked me to give him a lift back to the station. He ordered a glass of water and the smallest pizza. Then when I contacted him the next day to say thank you for a lovely date but I didn't think there was a spark he blew a gasket saying he'd cancelled a trip to Amsterdam with friends the following weekend so he could go out with me (was never discussed with me!!!! We had no further plans). He was both mean and bonkers.

Jennyjojo5 · 29/02/2024 15:43

Date with a relatively wealthy guy (just drinks as I don’t do dinner for first dates, in case I don’t like the person). Throughout the date he said multiple times that he wants to see me for a second date, when am I free etc etc. then when the bill came he told the waiter to split it. He had a coke and I had had a glass of wine! When we left, he tried to hold my hand as we walked out back to our cars, then said again how much he’d like to see me again..

i blocked him the min I got home.. stingy as hell

Moonlightandroses44 · 29/02/2024 15:45

SpringleDingle · 29/02/2024 15:41

A guy asked me out for dinner and said he'd book us a table. I arranged to meet him in St. Albans town centre and he took me to Pizza hut. I'd already let him know I was happy to go Dutch so wasn't expecting him to pay my way. Then he asked me to give him a lift back to the station. He ordered a glass of water and the smallest pizza. Then when I contacted him the next day to say thank you for a lovely date but I didn't think there was a spark he blew a gasket saying he'd cancelled a trip to Amsterdam with friends the following weekend so he could go out with me (was never discussed with me!!!! We had no further plans). He was both mean and bonkers.

Was probably hoping you’d recompense him for the lost cost! 😂

chilliandcake · 29/02/2024 15:47

First date. He insisted on going to the restaurant in a posh London hotel. I had a green tea. He had a main meal and a wine.
When the bill arrived, he pushed it over to me and said 'Can you pay this time as I have to give my ex wife money for my kid's nappies'.
I never saw him again... as you can imagine!

Britpop123 · 29/02/2024 15:47

probably the woman who expected me to pay and had no intention of splitting, just because I’m a man…

Moonlightandroses44 · 29/02/2024 15:49

Britpop123 · 29/02/2024 15:47

probably the woman who expected me to pay and had no intention of splitting, just because I’m a man…

My heart bleeds

Vinvertebrate · 29/02/2024 15:50

Years ago now, but a wine bar date when I looked at the wine list and he very deliberately took it out of my hands and replaced it with the "2 glasses for £10" card. (He was wealthy, faod).

I know a bit about wine so I ordered from the cheapo menu, taking my time and agonising over it with the wine waiter.... found it not to my taste, sent it back. Ordred again. Surely this one is corked too? After doing this 4 or 5 times, the manager recommended something from the wine list. Much better!

Date was incandescent and I was blocked before I even got home. What a shame... 😂

Elephantsareace · 29/02/2024 15:50

3rd not first, we agreed Sunday lunch and cinema and that lunch would be on me, cinema on him.

Had a nice lunch. Got to the cinema (cheap one, tickets 5.50 each) and when the woman asked if we'd like any food or drinks as well he snapped out 'no' quick as lightning and aggressively. Rude to her. I added a polite 'no thank you' to her as it was embarrassing. But also tight-fisted of him as I like to sip a coke while watching.

I'd already had a few doubts but that was the clincher. Rude to servers a big red flag to me, not letting me have an opinion on whether I wanted anything, and tight.

BackITD · 29/02/2024 16:00

This isn't me but it's the stingiest date story I ever read - the Milk Carton date. A friend emailed it to me I think it's from a message board like Reddit or something:

"I Love New York [Lili...] my dud date:

we took the subway to Times Square, and we walked around. he saw these little american flags for sale in a store and wanted to go inside to see what they cost. they cost 8.99 and he went on a little tirade.

I ignored it and floated out.

he had no set plans.

he asked me if i'd eaten dinner yet. I said noh. he took me to a pizza & falafel place (bright lights & plastic trays). I got a cup of soup and a glass of milk, and floated off when the cashier asked me to pay (after first looking at him all confused). my date got a paper cup of tea.

my date started to tweak that I'd bought a paper cup of milk (his mother had given him 4 little pints of milk when he'd visited her before our date) (which he asked if he could put in my refrigerator before the date).

in the pizzeria he explained that his mother had given him 4 pints of milk, and if I wanted milk I should have taken one of those with me on the date, so he wouldn't have to spend for the paper cup of milk in the pizzeria. he explained that the little pints of milk were in individual cartons.

he asked me if I wanted some tea. I said yes, i'd love some, so he got me another paper cup and he poured his tea in half.

I asked him if he wanted the slice of garlic toast that came with my soup (because I don't eat white bread). he wrapped it carefully in a napkin and put it in his pocket .

he took me to the Marriot hotel to ride up and down in the glass elavators, which was fun.

we went in about five times. we went in different ones.

then, he told me all about the swirling glass restaurant on the top of the hotel, shaped like a circle, which goes around and is is oh so beautiful, with a view of new york city out the windows.

it sounded cool. he asked the hotel girl how to get to it. she said it was a cocktail lounge, not an observation deck.
he explained to the girl that he wanted to take me up there to show me how cool the view was and how cool it was that the restaurant turned around on top of the building.

he explained to the girl he was only going to take me to look out the windows- we weren't going to eat or drink anything (!).

but then there was a long line to get in. he didn't want to wait in the line and found a way to sneak in, and I chickened out (yark).

he took me to the lobby to sit and talk and have intimate conversations all night. I was soo thirsty.

I thought it was odd that he walked right by the beautiful part of the lobby, with the pretty, little tables with little candles and white tablecloths, where all the people were having fun and drinks over candles.

he took me to one deserted section, with no service or drinks. we got kicked out. he scouted around for another section with plain tables but no drinks or waiters or candles. I was soo thirsty I felt like I had cottonmouth. I kept wondering what kind of a cheapo he was, and waiting for him to offer me some water.

then I said, "I need a bottle of water". so he went and asked the hotel guy where he could find a water fountain. the hotel boy showed him some water fountains down a hall. my date showed me where to go to get myself water from the water fountain.

I bent down to sip the water from the fountain when I came to my senses and ended the date early.

I tried to sweetly end the date early, and femmily and float out, but I was so hungry that I screeched at him for not buying me a glass of water and making me get up and go use a water fountain. thereupon, he screamed at me at the top of his lungs in the hotel (eek) "you're just after my money! I didn't spend enough money on you so you're leaving the date!". he went on and on yelling as I tried to find the escalator, but the escaltors were very confusing and I had to go down about ten of them. It was like one of those M.C. Escher paintings.

I was hungry and thristy and moody (it was after midnight and all I had was a soup and milk) so I started defending myself in the lobby while he yelled at me in front of all these well dressed fancy people about me being after his money.

I said, "A glass of water! yes I want a glass of water! You can't buy a girl a glass of water on a date?!". Whereupon he started screaming that he'd already bought me milk and that's why I couldn't have a glass of water".

I told him to the date was over and to get far away from me (I was sooo hungry & had cottonmouth) (but looked cute).

I ordered him to get away from me and told him he couldn't ride on the same escalator as me.

I told him he couldn't ride on the same elavator as me either, or the same subway car as me, and I punched the buttons on 2 eleavators- one for him and one for me and made him get in a different one.

he insisted on seeing me safely home (it was like 1:00 a.m.). I told him he couldn't ride on the same subway car as me <lol>.

he sheepishly and obidiently got on a different subway car, since he was forbidden on mine.

he saw me safely home but I made him walk half a block away from me everywhere we went. <lol>

we got to my house and he asked for the 4 little pints of milk from my refrigerator."

ScottishShortie · 29/02/2024 16:06

Not a first date but a few in was my birthday went out for what I thought was lunch and drinks. But he said he could only afford drinks. I was starving so went to a bakers and bought a cheese pasty. He bought nothing. I opened it, started eating it and he asked could he have a bite 😂😂 he had plenty of money for pints just not enough to buy his own pastie clearly 😂

EBearhug · 29/02/2024 16:08

I don't think I've had any really stingy dates - I have had some cheap dates, though (my choice as myxh as anything) - one was at the local museum (free entry,) but interesting to me. We had a coffee (him) and Diet Coke (me) in the shop. Both local, so no travel costs, apart from a carpark ticket (I walked). But it was quite a lovely date - I'd have stayed in contact as friends, just couldn't imagine going to bed with him.

Hoxite274764 · 29/02/2024 16:13

Moonlightandroses44 · 29/02/2024 15:35

I’ve never once agreed to a ‘walking’ or ‘coffee date’. For this reason!

I also used to refuse walking dates. It was obvious they just didn’t want to spend money

Moier · 29/02/2024 16:18

A guy on OLD asked me out for lunch..( first date). but had to be in his hometown on his lunch break.. l caught the train ( 45 mins away) we had a bit of a walk deciding where to eat.. just decided on a local cafe.. we sat down and looked at the menu.. ( l was really hungry).. he then stood up and said " I'm not paying these prices" and started walking out.. l followed him...( l was prepared to pay my own way.. ) we then passed a gregs and he handed me a pound and said " here get in the queue and buy yourself a sausage roll" l threw it back at him and made my way back to the train station..
He had to cheek to message me asking to see me again.🤣

Lysianthus · 29/02/2024 16:18

We split the bill. I wanted to pay cash so put down half plus a tip. He picked up the whole amount, paid on his credit card, didn't add a tip, and then said he needed the receipt to claim on expenses.

Gettingbysomehow · 29/02/2024 16:23

I don't date any more but I would never ever have done any more than go for a coffee or a drink. Why waste hours with somebody you might loathe at first sight. I know almost instantly whether I will like someone or not.
I spent about 5 minutes with one of them before walking out and driving away. Imagine if that had been lunch, I'd have had to suffer that guy for hours.

Notamum12345577 · 29/02/2024 16:25

🤣 some of these are tight!

SamW98 · 29/02/2024 16:26

Gettingbysomehow · 29/02/2024 16:23

I don't date any more but I would never ever have done any more than go for a coffee or a drink. Why waste hours with somebody you might loathe at first sight. I know almost instantly whether I will like someone or not.
I spent about 5 minutes with one of them before walking out and driving away. Imagine if that had been lunch, I'd have had to suffer that guy for hours.

I only ever do daytime coffee or drinks for first date. I chat think of anything worse than having dinner with someone I don’t know.

Ive had first dates that last 30 minutes and others that lasted 6 hours! If you get on well over coffee it’s easy to move on somewhere else but if you don’t click then a quick coffee and ‘see ya’

mydrivingisterrible · 29/02/2024 16:27

Jennyjojo5 · 29/02/2024 15:43

Date with a relatively wealthy guy (just drinks as I don’t do dinner for first dates, in case I don’t like the person). Throughout the date he said multiple times that he wants to see me for a second date, when am I free etc etc. then when the bill came he told the waiter to split it. He had a coke and I had had a glass of wine! When we left, he tried to hold my hand as we walked out back to our cars, then said again how much he’d like to see me again..

i blocked him the min I got home.. stingy as hell

Splitting isn't stingy

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