Possible TAAT but men who post here.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm a tiny bit suspicious that men who post here sometimes do it to coerce or learn how to coerce their DP or DW. One very recent thread was up for what, an hour, before it was withdrawn by the author. All very respectful posts disagreeing with him. MNHQ deleted it though. TAAT but also about lots of threads.

My worry is that he wanted to show his DW. LOOK women agree with me.

I don't know what my point is, and I'm not one of the people who wants to ban men. Maybe that we should be careful.

My ex did this (on a different website). Unfortunately for him his paranoia over me cheating was so unhinged that pretty much all the posters recommended he seek mental health support 😂at least he had the good grace to admit it

I do think sometimes they get a terrible shock because women IRL are trained to defer to men more. And roll their eyes and 'agree'. Then they meet women online unfiltered and it's a horrible experience.

I'm glad your ex got his arse handed to him. In a healthy way!

Didn't stop him continuing with the cheating allegations (all untrue) and eventually dumping me on my birthday. God knows why I miss him!!

God might know. I don't

I'm sure you're right about some of the men OP. Speaking for myself, if I ever showed DW any of the stuff I've put on here I'd be in a lot of trouble. There's a reason for the anonymity!

LOL

DH always thinks I'm complaining about him on here. I tell him he's vastly better than 90% of the husbands I read about on here!

I wonder if some threads are started by incel/manosphere types who want to goad mumsnetters to reply.
They are aiming to get responses to reinforce their own warped views about women in general.

I don'tunderstand all the abbreviations :-)

There's a list of them.

I agree OP, and then it will be frustrating because there always a number of posters willing to jump in and shout "man haters" if you do disagree with the OP as well

Where, my friend?

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms

hopefully that works!

That's very helpful of you. Many thanks. I just joined so please forgive my ignorance.

I'm always wary of men posting huge posts trying to paint their other half in a bad light but in doing so they unknowingly post how badly they have treated them. Then they get very annoyed, almost outraged, that we've picked up on their behaviour instead of focusing on their bad, bad partner.

EDIT - I have zero problems with men posting in other areas of mn, but it always seems dodgy in Relationships. They always make the thread about them instead of the Op.

Not unpopular with me. I don’t like it all. It changes the dynamic and flow, like everyone has to be more measured in their responses and stifles the style of conversation imo.

I’ve noticed that men’s threads tend to have epic OPs. I get a couple of lines in and give up.

I make an exception for PigletJohn tbf

I think that the answer to two particular questions should decide things for you (and I came up with these myself):

Is the relationship mutual?
Is the relationship healthy?

Apologies. I didn't mean to intrude.

Wall of Text.

It's a thing.

With 27 words of waffle where 5 would get to the point

And lots of words with long syllables to look clever

I work with too many men like this and I find myself having to grit my teeth and interally scream "get to the fucking point already" when they speak

Sounds just like the AI posts. Algorithmic bias in action?

Men are also part of relationships 🤷‍♂️
It's a sweeping generalisation. It'd be like saying all women on MN are complaining about their DH or are irrational. It's factually not true.

Online, a man can masquerade as a woman, and vice versa. The reality is you never actually know who you're speaking to online. Half of MN could be male journalists, and the truth is you'd never know.

Yes, men can be part of relationships (unless it's a lesbian one). Men also have 98% of the internet too. To come here, a mainly women's forum, to complain about the woman in their life is, at best, very goady. I would not dream of going to a male dominated site to complain about my DH and expect help or compassion. I would do it if I wanted to wind them up though.

And some of us can tell when some men posts purely based on their style and choice of words, although some helpfully post "man here" first. As I said, I'm fine in other areas, it just seems weird in relationships or divorce.