Possible TAAT but men who post here.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm a tiny bit suspicious that men who post here sometimes do it to coerce or learn how to coerce their DP or DW. One very recent thread was up for what, an hour, before it was withdrawn by the author. All very respectful posts disagreeing with him. MNHQ deleted it though. TAAT but also about lots of threads.

My worry is that he wanted to show his DW. LOOK women agree with me.

I don't know what my point is, and I'm not one of the people who wants to ban men. Maybe that we should be careful.

I don't like it either.

I amen't interested in their posts.

I tend to skip them.

It's always worth remembering you have no idea who is posting. Even posts from women may not be.

I often see advice given to posters appearing as women, who think their partner is cheating, to follow them, get a geiend to follow them, put a tracker on the car, go through his phone.

Suggesting things they would label abusive if a woman posted her partner was doing, esoecially based on his gut feeling. But they give it not realising that it's awful advice and it could be a man they could be giving it to.

I don't mind men posting in general. But ones starting threads in relationships have a weird quality about them. I always think they either must be so unaware of themselves to post what they do. Can they be so blinkered that they don't see the issue in their behaviour so post it not realising. Do they think women are so thick they won't pick up on it.

Or do they drip in a little bit of poor behaviour on their part to get posters wound up?

On general posts I do get annoyed at the 'man here, women often say they want X but I believe they want Y'. And that's on any topic.

God only knows because they have spent some time learning about real life stuff on Relationships.

A mature, loving, enlightened God knows it’s not all about chucking lightning rods against mountains, or blowing sideways at planes when they come in to land for You Tube hits.

And I make no apologies for quoting this already much quoted post because it is spot on.

Even Henry viii was a better husband than 90% of husbands on here.
😉😁😁

The male posters with the puzzled air, who can't understand why their wife is being like they are? Boring. Just more examples of men expecting women to do emotional labour for them.

I'm also thinking about that man who pops up posting about his wife's "outbursts" every so often. The only purpose a thread full of posters suggesting she's ND or telling him to leave her and take the kids would be show her as a gotcha.

Please delete your account if you are male!

I joined MN many years ago under another username (lost log in so gave up that user name)

I was going through a bad time, which was impacting our marriage. MN was recommended to me, I joined. After a couple of posts AF and SGB gave me some cracking advice (and rollockings )which I followed. Made me realise what I had, and what I stood to lose. Saw my GP, pulled my socks up, and our lives, and more importantly my wife's life, were all the better for it.

My wife sadly passed away last month. 45+ years of marriage and our children and grandchildren make me proud.

I come on here now to see where I can comment that can help. Sometimes I may be brusque where necessary but I can also be kind (at least I try anyway). I don't comment on every thread I read where the point has already been made or I feel my comment wouldn't help.

If I write a wall of text it's not deliberate but sometimes I waffle.

Wish you all a long and happy life

Wall of text especially with some sort of sexual problem = AI generated, until proven otherwise in my opinion.

There was a post yesterday from a man who whose wife didn't want sex and wasn't sure if she ever would. The OP made himself out to be the best, most considerate bloke ever, who couldn't understand why his wife didn't want sex with him. He got lots of advice, empathy blah blah and it wasn't until near the end of the thread did he say he'd cheated on her.

Men like that (and women) can fuck off

@LittleGreenDragons theres a very conspicuous (despite several name changes) female poster who does this though... constantly asking if her DH is abusive whilst showing up her own abusive behaviour!

Some excellent points about women's spaces and men. I don't object but find it disrespectful sometimes. I wanted to post for advice on the sex topic but hells teeth, it's full of men. Which is creepy and wrong frankly.

So sorry @billyt for your loss.

Yep and its getting real bad on here. 3 posts in an hour deleted ..trolls..and obviously incels...bitter men

I hat the faux bonhomie tone, I get the impression they think we're hanging on every word, whereas most of us think they're massive twats.

Quoting again because it deserves repeating and I'd hate to think you're alone in your views @SlumberDearMaid .

Obviously I can't pick out all the men masquerading as women for whatever reason. But if men come on here - and by 'here' I mean anywhere on MN other than Dadsnet - because they think we give a shit what they think, or they think we exist to enlighten them on the ways of women, they can fuck off. I completely ignore them.

I think comprehension may not be your thing

Why would you be "in a lot of trouble" for saying what you think?

It's interesting - some become really abusive when challenged. It's a dead giveway on those that have selected user names they think are female sounding.

I do fear it's rendering some topic areas unusable, particularly discussion of divorce settlements and childcare arrangements which seems comprised of 50% MRA respondents, and relationships. Which is a shame, as women on these boards come here for much needed advice and solidarity, not to take a mauling from bitter men.

By that 'logic' only 'mums' should be allowed on here so anyone without children shouldn't be on here, or grandmothers caring for grandchildren or other non biological carers female or not?

How many grandmothers do you know who aren't also mothers, @WandaWonder ?