Possible TAAT but men who post here.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm a tiny bit suspicious that men who post here sometimes do it to coerce or learn how to coerce their DP or DW. One very recent thread was up for what, an hour, before it was withdrawn by the author. All very respectful posts disagreeing with him. MNHQ deleted it though. TAAT but also about lots of threads.

My worry is that he wanted to show his DW. LOOK women agree with me.

I don't know what my point is, and I'm not one of the people who wants to ban men. Maybe that we should be careful.

Exactly, and I'm really disappointed in Mumsnet for silencing so many women on this thread by deleting a popular post and the many replies.

Me too. Though not surprised, they’ve done it to me before. Same issue different thread.

Mumsnet people, I really don't understand how that popular and much requoted post broke any guidelines or was offensive in any way.

even if someone didn't like it, it was fair comment…

please could you explain, or let us have it back?

Seconded

Come to think of it, I've been deleted before too. When trying to raise the alarm about male posters who are very clearly trying to start a pile-on about their wife so they can (literally or figuratively) beat her over the head with it. "Look, all the women on the internet agree with me!" Anyone who's been the subject of this triangulation tactic by a narc arsehole can spot it a mile off.

I should add, I did not post the above in response to an individual thread nor did I accuse a particular poster - that would be unreasonable - I made a general comment in a thread similar to this one. And it was deleted.

It's the way that some men just won't listen and leave it be when told, at certain times and on certain subjects, particularly where its upsetting/distressing, women dont want to talk/discuss with them. Leave people alone when they want to be left alone seems fair enough. There's DadsNet. Aside from that I think its ok for men to be here but not in 'yeah but, women too' or lecturing fashion.

I know others disagree but I also resent the 'I just needed a female perspective so I can be a better husband/father' schtick.

1. we're not on mumsnet to be emotional support humans or wikipedia for men.
2. ask your mother/sister/whatever, someone who knows the people involved rather than relying on your one sided, self promoting version of events
3. we know it's all BS anyway and you just want more sex

Sometimes it's easy to guess though.

Whats also weird is when men post on AIBU and think they are getting a hard time because they're men. No love its because its AIBU its always like that (plus they are probably actually BU).

Though TBF there are also plenty of women who flounce...

Some people must be really sensitive because a lot of the threads get taken down at the OPs request because they didn't like the answers were hardly pile ons of epic bitchyness.