Well now my self esteem is in tatters

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Few dates in with a man. On Thursday evening mid way through sex he says he ‘just doesnt find me that physically attractive’. Stopped and asked why he’d pursued dates before listing all the reasons I was a great catch and throwing him out of my house. Is this not just awful to say when vulnerable and also how do I now piece together my self esteem again lol

So, let me get this straight - while he had his penis inside of you he told you he didn't find you physically attractive.

The absolute fucking audacity of the horrible little scrote. As unpleasant as it is OP, you are well rid and I'd take his extreme negging with a huge pinch of salt.

He’s the rancid one. Not you.

He sounds like a tosser. I like how you dealt with it though, well done.

I think it says more about him (personality) than you (attractiveness).

Sounds like he’s got enough red flags for a Xmas hunting!

Block and move on OP, he doesn’t deserve another thought.

How did that level of conversation happen midway through sex?

That’s so awful, how dare he do that to you. I can guarantee you’re beautiful inside and out and it’ll be his loss, p*k.

I’d have drop kicked him for saying that 🤬

It’s not you, it’s him. He’s a shit rag and he’s just saved you the bother of getting rid of him further down the line.

Why? you booted out a sad loser who dislikes women and likes making them feel bad about themselves - and you did it straight away and with some style, instead of putting up with it and coming back on here in a few months time complaining about him. The only person who should feel rancid here is him (he won't, of course).

Sounds like a lucky escape to me.

He sounds like someone who’s had some really bad advice or has some warped idea of how to make women interested in him, kind of a treat em mean keep em keen way.

think you were supposed to be so grateful that even though he’s not attracted to you, he was willing to have sex with you. What a dick. What a sad pathetic loser of a man.

it’s his self esteem that should be in tatters, not yous

Mate he got limp dick and tried to cover it up. Delete,move on, keep being fabulous 👌

What an absolute horror of a human.

said he meant he couldn’t say “you are attractive” because he struggles to articulate feelings

Funny that he didn't have any problem articulating the opposite, isn't it? all he had to do was leave out that negative.

You dealt with it perfectly. Not rancid, magnificent!
What a sad nasty woman hating man, taking his limp dick worries out on you. Well rid.

In his ‘I struggle to express myself properly’ babble, did he even explain what he was trying to say?

I possibly am not the most physically gorgeous person but I am funny and extremely kind. Been repeating this for a while to myself

I don't get how this would damage YOUR self esteem.
So, he's an absolute dickhead. Fine.
But how does him being a dickhead change how you feel about yourself?

A test. You failed. Well done. You won't have him fucking with your brain for the foreseeable. Fucking arsehole. Angry on your behalf.

What terrible manners !!!!

I agree - must have felt the start of a limp dick and needed to direct.

Block and ignore the bad mannered oaf. Don’t think of him again and in a couple weeks your brain will have edited him out

Onwards and upwards !

Wow! He found you attractive enough to want to get you into bed! I assume he wasn't performing too well and decided to put the blame on you. Pity his next 'conquest'

Yeah or as @Giggorata says - a test - it could have made you beg and do things usually you wouldn’t.

Bad mannered boundary pushing. Delete and Block!!!!

any other red flags ?

Ok, you need to totally reframe your thinking op.
if some arsehole treated me like this, I wouldn't see it as any reflection on me, I wouldn't give a shit what someone who is a twat themselves, thinks of me. It's all on him.

It's not about you, OP. It's about how he feels about women and what's going on in his head. You just happened to be in the firing line (as it were).

Oh OP I am so sorry this happened. He is awful, block him and move on. Do things that make you feel happy today and just be kind to yourself!

You handled that brilliantly. He's a nasty negging piece of work.

Yes this OP.