Called the police

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I finally snapped and called the police this evening, and my husband has been arrested. He was drunk and angry and hit me. It’s been escalating for months. In between feeling heartbroken what do I do next. Someone will be calling me in the morning to discuss next steps, and I assume if I want to take things further. We are married so what do I do? I put most money into the house, and I don’t want to have to be the one who leaves. Has anyone else been here and have advice. My heart can’t quite believe I have done this, but my head says I need to be safe and nothing short of a miracle can take us back to a good place.

Oh OP I'm so sorry

OP, so sorry for YOU.

I’m so sorry 🫂

I'm terribly sorry @Userccjlnhibibljn8

What a shock for you.
I can understand you feeling distraught and conflicted about this.

I am really really sorry.

This is NOT your fault.

So sorry op x

What a shock for you. So very sorry, please be kind to yourself xxx

Oh no, I'm so so sorry.

Was he in hospital again?

I’m so sorry. This is not your fault

I'm so sorry. Agree with others, this is not your fault

I've just read your thread for the first time and saw the update. Firstly I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
You need to grieve and grieve hard, don't question your emotions just allow them to pass over you. This is not going to feel better, for a long time, it's trauma.
You are not responsible. I hope you have good support around you

This is not your fault. Is there someone you can be with?

I’m so, so, sorry.

OP, I've read your updates when I've seen them over the months. I am so sorry to read this. YOu have been so strong in the face of such difficulties and of course this will make you feel worse. But please please please believe me and everyone else - this is not your fault. And it's okay to feel sad and heartbroken and confused.

I hope one of your friends is there with you?

I am so very sorry. ❤️🙏

Thank you, I had friends staying with me, so I am not alone. His sister found him, at home. It may have been a heart attack or an overdose.

I'm sorry to hear this, OP.

I am so sorry OP.
I've been checking in each time you've updated and have been so so proud of your progress so far.
Please surround yourself with support and take it as easy as you can. Sending a hand hold xx

Sorry to see this OP, it seemed inevitable this would be the outcome and I hope you are not taking any responsibility for this onto yourself. Lost souls like yours and my exh's find empathetic people like us to be their crutch in life. It's not our job, it's one that we're made to feel responsible for over time. Your leaving and his death are merely correlated, causation does not lie at your door. Grieve him and make peace with the fact he wasn't for this world and there is a more peaceful existence for him in another. Take care of yourself x

Ah, what an end. I’m sorry that on top of everything else, you have this to process and survive. You will get through this. Let all the emotions run riot through you, use all the strategies, and put yourself back together yet again. Sending love and prayers.

So sorry 💐

I am sorry for the loss you are feeling and the end of what was a clearly laid path for your future.

none of this is your fault.

link back with your solicitor maybe to see what needs doing if you are still next of kin?

Sad news Op and I'm sorry for how you must feel now. Please know this is not your fault, he made bad choices over and over again, no one can abuse their body with drink or drugs forever and get away with it.
Please be at peace, not your fault, you couldn't save him, he had to want to save himself

Thank you everyone, it helped to read your messages through a long night. Xxx