Dating thread 245

[SamW98]

Continued from 244….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I don’t do big first dates. I hate the thought of dinner with a virtual stranger with food interrupting the flow of chat.

A coffee or drink always works for me. If it’s a good date then it can last for hours (my record is 7 hours) or if it’s crap one drink then bye bye (again my record is 40 minutes and that was too long 🤣)

@Rainynight09 I probably wouldn't be too keen on that then. Are they one of those blokes who enjoy hiking every weekend? Was it that kind of walk?

@SamW98 my date tonight has suggested food. Originally it was just drinks. Now I'm not so keen cos I don't wanna eat in front of someone I hardly know! Food is too many options and too much stress!

@Pepsimaxedout can you just say to leave it as drinks as you’re eating with family/earlier/later etc?

@VanillaSox Dan Snow 🙏 Just the sight of him made my shitty Sunday a bit better 💖

@Pepsimaxedout Keep us updated how the date with the local shop guy goes

I already tried that, said I'm out with the kids today!! I'll see how it goes. Im hopeful I can steer him towards some where nice but street food.

So my date from last night said he'd message me this morning but so far not heard from him 🙈 surely im not being ghosted...... again!!!!
So it's not looking great is it 🫠 I don't mind not messaging all the time at all, but I would've thought that if he'd really liked the date he would've messaged by now! I've been dying to message but held back as he said he'd contact me!
Anyway I guess it is just what it is 🙃

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He might have had a sleep in? He might not want to appear too keen. I'd not write it off until tomorrow.

@blacksocks33 if you like him, take a leap of faith. Send him a breezey how are you message so he knows you're still interested and leave it as that. Then at least you know.

If you like him I’d just drop a ‘good morning’ text and wait to see if he replies.

He said he’d message you and honestly if he was keen it would have been the first thing he did this morning.. give him the benefit of the doubt for the rest of the day but yeah if you don’t hear from him today it’s not a good sign tbh.. I wouldn’t message him myself but that’s up to you..

@blacksocks33 I’d have to go with the breezy message option tbh, then at least he would hopefully and reply and you’d at least know. Fingers crossed…

@blacksocks33 I'm also dubious too. If someone likes you, they would be quick to message and get you off the market. Those who don't, tend to just be nice but chicken to say they don't like you. This has been my experience unfortunately

I've been on a walking date before, it was in the summer when I had only just started OLD.

It was a hot day and there was an ice cream van. The guy asked if I wanted anything and I selected my favourite, then he looked at me to pay the £4.50 or whatever it was. I asked him if he was getting anything, he then decided he wanted a water, and paid for it all.

He was a bit handsy, plus I found the date a bit odd so I wouldn't go on one again, though I can see why a person would, if you like that sort of thing.

I messaged him and no reply so I guess that's that :(

I'd be patient and wait, particularly as he said he would. I find it hugely attractive when a man does what he says he will.

It may also be that he's playing it cool if he hasn't already messaged, due to not wanting to appear too keen.

A friend has just travelled 2hours to London to meet a guy who turned for a date on the South Bank with sandwiches made at home and a flask of coffee…😱

@blacksocks33 I suspect he is keeping his options open and waiting to see who else might be interested in meeting. Still worth sending a brief message to keep the conversation going.

Oh I'm so sorry.

At least you know though by sending the message.

Just beware that he doesn’t pop up on a few days claiming bereavement/lost phone/work as reason

FFS - I hope she made most of her day. I’d have told him no thanks and spent the afternoon shopping and having a solo cocktail or two

No! Just no! I know dates can be expensive, but just no!

I hope he still keeps his promise and gets back to you