For second wives, do you hate your exes first wife still having his surname?

[sunshineonarainyday2023]

Just curious really. I still have my exes surname as it's been my name for more than half my life and the cost of changing everything is pain.
I've noticed that most of my divorced friends still use their married name but I wondered if it riles the ex or the new wife?
I've been told by family members that my exes new wife hates that I still have his surname.

I had to pay to change my drivers licence. £20 (done in 2016/17).

Everything else is free but it's still a pain to write to everyone individually with evidence

When I got married I took ex-he's name. From that point on it was my name too- it wasn't on loan for the duration of the marriage. I didn't "choose" not to be married any more- he had an affair and left. He chose not to be associated with me any longer, so if he didn't want to share a name it was up to him to change his.

Yep. One could argue that the name you've chosen (i.e. married name) is more yours than your birth name, because you chose it rather than having had it foisted upon you.
It's not on loan and it's not someone else's.

Unless you got married on your 18th birthday, no one couldn't. If you use a name as an adult in the UK, a country where we are allowed to pick what we're called, you've chosen it. This is true regardless of whether it's your birth name, a name you took on marriage or a name you got some other way. They're all yours, identically so.