Aibu...Hotel night...

[milkonesugar35]

Xmas 2022 we were given a voucher for a hotel. This was given to us when at the time we had a 10 month old. Said voucher lasts until Xmas 2024 and said baby is now 23 months. I've never had a night away from him and have no intention of doing so for the foreseeable so if we use the voucher, ds comes too as far as my wishes are concerned.

For context, my parents are very hands on as they have ds 2 days a week whilst I work. They've not had him overnight and I'm not going to ask. No one else has ever looked after ds.

I've suggested we have a day trip where I would therefore feel comfortable going just the two of us. It's a monetary voucher so could be used for a meal there / use of the spa etc. Dh says he wants to stay. The nearest of the chain to us is approx a 75min drive.

Aibu? Other option is for dh to go with a mate I guess!

There’s a huge gap between not wanting to leave a child of 2 and having an 11 year old who hasn’t ever slept away from home. My 9 year old has just started having overnights at my parents so that the school residential in year 6 isn’t as big a shock.

But that's the point. It's not right for her family as a whole is it? It's right for op but not her husband. He is a part of that family too.

But it's not right for the family as a whole is it?
Her DH would like a night away with his wife.

The trial idea is so sensible.

Of course you won’t enjoy it, if it’s the very first night you’re away from your child. But if you’ve done a couple of dummy runs before then, you could have a lovely time.

Also, you just don’t know what might come up that could cause you to need to rely on your parents for overnight care - if your little one has experience of staying with them, then this would make things a great deal easier, if such a situation arose.

P.S. All the posters saying your DH will have an affair if you don’t do this are being more than a little 🙄

Why?

I didn’t mean work on her sex life, but I can see my post looked like that! I meant maybe work on the reason why, there is often underlying reasons.