Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

Domestic and sexual abuse.
Don’t let him touch you if you don’t want to be touched.

Ok, but this kind of thinking is really harmful to survivors of DV & sexual violence. It plays into the idea that if you don't physically fight back, you're weak or pathetic - or don't understand that you are being abused - or are allowing yourself to be assaulted. None of which is true. No matter what we might think or believe outside of that situation, many women freeze or fawn simply because we instinctively feel that's the safest option. Which it often is. And that's without even considering the boil-a-frog erosion of agency and self esteem in long term DV situations.

@cerisepanther73 because deviant people quite often write post's about disturbing things almost always with crude/ graphic sexual themes or wording for some sort of gratification.
I have seen quite a few that have been taken down.
It's certainly not because I'm a prude or can't grasp the concept of an abusive partner.

He's vile.

I wonder 🤔 if this was why the idea of chastity belts could have been invented used in olde worlde times?

Jeese that is utterly vile .

I can see why some women prefer to be lesbiens,

it's hardly Surprising when think of some menfolk out there.

Your husband isn't annoying he's a sex pest. Wtf does he think he is being entitled to your body and demanding to know whether you've finished your period. Why would you ever have sex with him again when this is how he thinks about you. Also how can you ever want sex with someone who sulks to get his way. Controlling partners often don't start out like that otherwise you'd never date them but they can become controlling over the years of a long term relationship and that is what it sounds like has happened in your marriage. I'd be thinking hard about leaving him rather than put up with this behaviour any more.

it's really frustrating when people decide it's a troll post so early on without giving the OP a chance. It's happened to me a few times on here and I didn't end up getting advice because everyone then piled on with the person who called me a troll.

Actually I have been a victim of dv and rape so don't tell me how to deal with things. I have a mental condition which makes me have violent tendancies when threatened and I will lash out with whatever is available to defend myself as a result. If someone got hurt as a result of my actions then its their fault.

Many years ago I had an ex who had to see soiled pads to believe it was that time of the month, and that I wasn't avoiding intimacy.
Leave him. Very soon.

Ffs!

He’s disgusting. I’d find it very hard to have sex with an idiot like that. 🤮

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I suggest external help - woman's aid are very helpful. Take care. I wish you the best.

I actually had a physical reaction to reading your post. Like I went to 'clutch my pearls' but sweet mother of all that is good WTF!!!! He feels for your pad. That is genuinely disgusting behaviour.

I would dump him. And I rarely say that

This is horrific OP. Abusive behaviour and I can't imagine staying with someone like that.

Has 2b

So abusive wow OP

Oh my god, you have to leave this piece of shit. This is so not ok. His behaviour is abusive. How dare he do this to you?

Grim.

I am sorry that happened to you. I am also a survivors and work with other survivors. I know we all respond differently, which is why I absolutely did not tell you 'how to deal with things'.
What I did say was that telling OP what violent way you would react to her situation could be really harmful, for OP and for other in similar circumstances. It seems like that was the most common response on here... 'if he tried that with me I'd .....'
I get that that's one way to show how angry we all are about the way OP is being treated, and it feels strong to type those words. But for OP's sake, it's important to name that many women don't actually react that way, and it's not her fault if she doesn't.

Ewwwww

Second-hand ick.

What a horrible little man.

This thread is appalling

OP im so sorry you have this
I’d advise you seek some better advice on domestic abuse , womens aid will provide support and their helpline is on the website

the responses that In parallel say they would ‘put a knife in his back ‘ or bury him under the patio are disgusting and supremely unhelpful

Op look after yourself , this isn’t right and you need some help In RL

unfortunately this thead isn’t helpful

Tell him you are from now on going to stop answering. And that he needs to grow up.