Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

So ignore him, once you've reminded him that sulking is unbelievably unsexy.

I would tell him "Don't you ever, ever dare to degrade me like that again by checking to see if I'm wearing a pad, and your behaviour is deeply unattractive"

Let him get in a huff and feel sorry for himself.

He's an absolute pig.
Would you consider leaving OP?

Hi OP, everything ok ? Best of luck

Divorce his disgusting abusive arse.

So let him

He does not own your body and you should not have your tolerate this disgraceful behaviour and lack of respect for you.

Ask yourself if you are willing to accept this attitude if/when it continues and escalates over the decades if you stay with him - or whether you'd be better off living a life without someone who treats you like this. 🌹

OP, if you are going to remain living with this man you need to do something and soon, before his behaviour escalates. By no stretch of the imagination is this normal behaviour and the fact that he continues to do it is even more concerning. Is this how he thinks he has the right to treat a woman? If so, you've got more than the immediate problem: I think alarm bells should be ringing very loudly - he is definitely not functioning correctly.

What a pig. Whether or not you are on your period doesn't mean that you want sex with him. I'd never let him touch me again after this.

Picture your life with this pig forever. Is this what you want?

Op this is deeply troubling. And in some many ways.

• He doesn't trust you (thinks you're lying about your period)
• He touches you in ways you don't want him to
• He thinks he has a right to your body, and thinks of you first and foremost as a provider of sex
• He doesn't respect you
• He thinks that if you don't have your period, he gets to have sex with you. He doesn't realise that you can say No for any reason.
• He sulks and plays the victim.

Any one of those reasons is reason enough to leave him. This is so far from normal it's worrying.

Honestly just when I think it can’t get any worse, this thread comes along.

Is me it has this place just become full of posters with the worst hideously abusive partners and yet none of them seem to know what to do 🤷‍♀️

@Chickenpie35

ffs what? Do you honestly think that advising the OP to punch her husband in the throat is sound advice? It goes against every recommended strategy from all agencies including Women's Aid for dealing with domestic abuse or violence. He could hit her back and seriously hurt or even kill her (men are far stronger than women) or she could actually find herself prosecuted for domestic violence.

@Indifferentchickenwings
You are coming across as " holi than thou" on high horse" with your post,

Women who have described that they would like to put a knife 🔪 in his back or Bury him ,
are definitely not being disgusting or offensive about describing @suzycy34 husband's disturbing behaviour 😳

It's a natural knee Jerk verciseral reaction to hearing something distressing in nature, that affects impacts women all too often,

Sexual and emotional/ psychological and physical Abuse,

So please 🙏 stop gaslightening some or several of the women expressing their viewpoints @Indifferentchickenwings

they are perfectly entiled to feel the way they do...

I wasn't advising
I agreed with someone who said what they'd do.
As a victim of domestic abuse that probably is how I'd react now when my ptsd is triggered. K bye

Let’s agree to disagree

in fact OPs situation is FAR more of an issue that some of the language used in this thread

if his behaviour makes women have violent thoughts , that says a lot

i just didn’t find it very constructive, I can’t imagine anyone reading this thread and finding it a shining example tbh 🤷‍♀️

i think Ops in a pickle and one sentence posts like ‘Why are you with this man’ , will just make her feel shit

I wish a clever woman on here or even the mumsnet team would take threads like this, and the one on here today about the lady that isn't allowed on her husbands side of the bed and other instances of scary vile behaviour threads from over the years and published them in a book to be given to every 16 year old in the country. We need men to be told they can't treat women like that and for women to be told that this behaviour towards them is wrong and is a reason to end the relationship.

To be fair it's very common among women that they say stuff like "I'd kick him in the balls...punch him in the throat....commit x, y, and z violent act" but they don't actually mean it or do it.

I think most people understand that it's just women expressing how out of order the behaviour was and don't take it as genuine advice.

I think it's unhelpful in general though because it's not actual advice.