Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

Well thats given me the ick.

Agreed. Tasteless

As I believe other posters have already stated - this is abuse. Report it. Leave him.

He is far worse than annoying, he is abusive. Please get any rl support you need and get rid of him.

If you do stick with him for some unknown illogical reason, he's going to get his mind blown by perimenopause- where periods can be closer together and last longer.
Immature little twat, not sure how sex could occur at all after treatment like that, would put me right off any man.

Come on OP. If this is real, you must realise how revolting this is.

Troll or no troll i knew someone whos partner did this, also one who gets very annoyed when her period starts like she does it on purpose.

No point saying anything anymore she mians about it but does nothing so i sont wanna hear it anymore

So he was basically always manipulative jerk, but just got worse lately- well that's what usually happens with abusing people.

Op in all good- read something about narcissistic behaviour, gaslighting and manipulating behaviour- I'm pretty sure you will recognise lots red flags in his behaviour towards you afterwards.

@FreshWinterMorning I did read the thread which is why I want to know what's changed recently- if you've been married that long wouldn't your first question be why the Hell has this become an issue? I find it hard to believe he's been a lovely DH for years and is suddenly so creepy for no reason at all

I agree. Also, the OP did not even say her DH calls her 'Pad-ington.'

Why did you say this @Mikimoto ? It's not funny and it makes no sense. Not a very clever thing to say, and deeply insensitive.

Oh fair enough. I do wonder also why he has suddenly gone this way. So grim. Feeling her crotch area to see if she has a pad on. WTAF?!

Wtf. Why do you let him feel if you're wearing a pad?! And why on earth does he ask you if you're on your period. Does he expect you to have sex every time he wants if you're not? You might not want sex for a month and so be it.

Tell him you’re going to be using tampons from now on, how’s he gonna check then? Actually don’t answer that 😳

Why are you still with him?! Someone would do that to me exactly once and they would be gone
People ask me why I'm still single but surely being single is better than this fucked yo relationship, it can't make you happy

I'd wear a pad every fucking day until I'd got my ducks in a row and left. That is just grim OP.

D you have to have sex every single time he wants it, whether or not you want to? How often do you actually have sex you don’t want to?

Im guessing you have no choice and it’s often?

@Mikimoto you should be ashamed of yourself.

I genuinely think I’d walk out the door and either come back when he absolutely, crystal clear, realised what an abusive, misogynist, arrogant twat of man he was and worked hard to prove he’d changed or I’d be off, gone and divorced.

Awful awful man.

Yikes Mikimoto, read the room!

Are you with my ex op?

My God, that's appalling.

I’d be tempted to shove a used pad in his face and ask if that’s enough evidence for him, then he’d be packing his bags. Disgusting excuse of a man.

Agree with everyone else saying this is appalling.

I would not ever be having sex with him again, period or not.

This is abuse. If you're also having sex with him when you don't want to when you're off your period that is also not okay.