Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

Geniuinely one of the most horrifying things I've read on mumsnet. He has no trust for you and clearly doesn't respect your bodily autonimy. Do not fall for the sunk costs falicy, run for the hills as fast as you can.

Out of curiousity how often are you 'allowed' to decline sex if you're not on your period that he has it in your head that you need a get out excuse?

And what happens if you don't have your period but you don't want to have sex ?
This is abusive behaviour op.

Oh my days, my fanny would be closed for business permanently if my husband was like this. He sounds vile. You have my utmost sympathy @suzycy34 #grim 😬

Tell him to shut the fuck up, and fuck off bullying you to shag him, or you will deny him sex again - EVER!

Yes.

He's treating you like a piece of meat, agree this is one of the worst things I've read on here. Most men, even those who are somewhat unenlightened, would never even think to do this let alone actually do it.

This would put me off ever wanting to have sex with him again. Yuk!

This is a first! Your husband is a sick puppy. Tell him if he does it again to get out and stay out.

Ltb

Wtf. He sounds barking mad

He. Feels. Your. Trousers?

That is how pimps treats their prostitutes! He is treating you like a slap of meat. Marriage is not Vaginas R Us where men get to buy one with legs attached and use it every time they like.

Are you seriously considering ever sleeping with this swine again? And if you tell me you can't say no, then you have bigger problems than him groping you to feel your pad. Get help. If he did this to me, I would break every single one of his fingers and then I would continue with a limb more dear to him.

WHAT? Have I just read what I think I've read? He'd be missing a hand - probably his whole arm - by now....

For heaven's sake OP, how can you tolerate this gorilla near you? (With apologies to gorillas, as they would behave better). Edited to say: this is assault - next time = phone call to police. You sound so resigned to this treatment, which is terrifying.

This is absolutely disgusting behaviour. He needs to understand that jamming his hand between your legs is sexual assault.

He does not have the right to know anything about your periods.

He does not have the right to have sex with you or anyone else.

What?!?! How dare he

How many years has this been going on

If this is all true then we could help you more if you'd answer the questions op? What's changed recently, why doesn't he trust your word? Is he a sex pest all the time or is this new behaviour. It just seems weird that after 11 years together he's suddenly changed.

Then tell him to get to hell out of your life. This is the most disgusting abusive behaviour.

What a disgusting pig of a man. You exist as a set of holes that he has a right to copulate with. And that's all. Get away from him for good.

Absolutely disgusting

Read the OP's posts. She says it is recent behaviour!

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That is terrible. Truly, treating you like this is grim.
How did he get to the point he could "check" you?
How did he get to the point he's questioning you if you're making excuses?
Why is he acting like your period is the only thing stopping you from having sex unless you're making an excuse?... you should be able to say, yes, no whatever without explanation.

"Every time you ask, I'll add on a day"

That's disgusting. Who on earth does he think he is??

That’s disgraceful and an undignified way to treat you. You’re his wife - why isn’t he treating you with respect?! Even if you weren’t on your period you’re still allowed to not want to have sex with him.

This isn’t the post for really shit jokes.

🤢🤢🤢

id rather be single, destitute and decrepit to my dying breath that be with that man.