Husband annoying about my period

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So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

You need to get rid OP. You deserve much more respect.

Do you actually allow him (willingly, not forced or coerced) to feel for a pad? Or is he assaulting you multiple times a day?

Twat! He does not own your body, gross

I’d be tempted to bury him under the patio and ask him if he’s still breathing.

Seriously OP, this is domestic abuse. He does not respect you, and like all abusers it will only get worse. Please please speak to a trusted friend/relative/helpline, and make plans to get away from him.

WTAF.

If this is real there aren’t enough ICKs to describe it. Fucking grim.

Yuck. This js one of the most vile things I’ve read here. He feels your trousers ti see if you’re wearing a pad?! Bloody hell. He is foul. For the love of God, divorce the prick.

Get rid of this sad excuse for a human being.

If my exh had ever dared to do this even once with the feeling for a pad, he would be having a knife between the shoulder blades.
Bang out of order.

No, not this. It is very poor advice to encourage an abused and vulnerable woman to use violence against a (much stronger) man. It is also unrealistic. Even when faced with a predator, it doesn't come naturally for the vast majority of people to use violence.

The OP should contact Women's Aid and make plans to leave.

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This is domestic abuse and it will only get worse.

Are you allowed to say no at any other time of the month?

I cannot believe what I’m reading btw. It’s just awful.

Wtf so he’s groping you in the vagina to check?

You've not asked an actual question so what do you want from this post?

He’s a foul and abusive piece of shit.

He could huff all he wanted. As for feeling sorry for himself - what he should feel is ashamed. Ashamed about treating his wife so coarsely. Ashamed that he is a sex pest. Ashamed that he thinks you have to have sex whether you want it or not. Just. Fucking. Ashamed.

You sound very resigned to his behaviour. I'm guessing this is not the only thing he's doing lately .

"Just seems to have started the last few months"
After 11 years of marriage? Has anything else changed a few months ago? Job, family, finances, hobbies? Anything?

What an absolute weirdo he is.

he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not ,

So he's groping you? You are allowed to tell him you don't want him to ever do that again. You are allowed to decide who touches your body. You are allowed to say no to sex even if you are not on your period.

You are allowed to leave him for any reason.

What have I just read? Jeezo, op, this is really vile. You need to throw him out talk to him asap!

I wasn't suggesting that OP should do it, I was referring to that fact I personally could do it as I do not have a conscience about such doings things.

He's a gross sex pest. Why exactly are you with him?

IF this is true, it's one of the most disgusting abusive posts I've ever read.
You need to get rid of this monster.

Apart from being him being a fucking sex-pest and pressuring you into updating him on your vagina's availability, do you not feel humiliated by him groping your crotch to check up on whether you are lying???

OP... I don't know how else to word this, but you are not horrified enough.

This is REPULSIVE, ABUSIVE behaviour and you need to put a stop to it immediately.

How can we help you? Do you want suggestions on what to say, whether you should leave? Please think about what you are going to do because this is appalling.

How DARE he feel to see if you're wearing a pad??? This is abuse. You have to leave this evil man.

@maybejustonemoretime

Why on earth have you reported this mumsnet thread as a troll post then?

Why is it 🤔 so unbelievable that there are some men out there that are shit Creeps and mistreat women as sex toys???

he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not

I think you've been in this relationship for so long that you're not as shocked and angry about this as you should be.

It's really fucked up. Most women would find this violating. He sounds like an absolute sex pest. Yuck.