Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

Tell him to drink his arsenic - such a lovely colour green - while you look for some nice black to wear.

Failing that, inform him that he's off rations until he mends his ways.

Say to him "the more you keep asking the more I'm going to refuse to answer".

Or better still, leave. He sounds like an absolute twat.

What would happen if you said you do not want to have sex regardless of whether you are on your period or not. He is being disgusting abusive and controlling and the last thing you want is sex.

Tell him to get therapy, he sounds like a sex addict.
I'd leave him.

I’m having difficulty believing this is real.

Weirdness aside, do you (and he) realise that you don’t need an excuse to have sex? You can just say ‘no’ because you don’t fancy it.

I hope to God that you don’t have daughters. This is disgusting. He is actually awful. Some guys can just be annoying on occasion or a bit stupid sometimes but this… he is actually disgusting, abusive, cruel. Do you not feel dehumanised? When he comes over to give you a good feeling to see if you’re wearing sanitary products? You’re a human being, OP. And you have to stand there and be questioned on your period and then felt up? This isn’t right. Can you see how wrong this is? How are you letting this happen to you? Leave. Leave today. Tell him you’re done being abused and leave today. You must have friends or family you can stay with, you leave him and then you can approach discussion about his behaviour and whether or not he will ever become a respectful person again. But seriously, leave him. I don’t know if I’ve ever said that before on here.

Bloods being taken in a weeks time, then we will discuss HRT (and iron levels.)

Well actually I'd tell him to leave

Can you not see how fucked up it is that he FEELS to see if you’re wearing a pad and you let him do that?? The first time he tried it would’ve been the last, fucking hell what an abusive creep.

If this is true, he's a controlling and hideous sex pest and you need to seriously consider if you want to stay in this relationship with this revolting man. Urrgghhhh.

How does this relate to your period?

He doesn't value you as a person OP.

I can't quite believe what I've just read, even my other halfs jaw hit the floor! He is a sex pest, how on earth can you find this man attractive?! Ew!

That's abuse. End of

What am I reading, how did it get to this stage where you allow him to abuse you like this and treat you like a bit of meat.

Fuck me, what an absolute sex pest arsehole you married.

Oh OP, this is awful. I’m so sorry you are having to respond to this man. His behaviour is completely unacceptable and demeaning. Please be firm in your boundaries and don’t let him cross them again. Asking you once is one thing, groping you and asking you repeatedly is abusive.

Not a fetish, he’s just a sex pest that wants to jump on her as soon as her periods finished. Abusive sex pest.

Leave the absolute fucker, he is a nasty, nasty person.

I guess sex is an expectation from him. You can’t say no? He gets to habe sex whenever he wishes like you’re a piece of meat and have no say?

Yes this was my next thought too.

What a horrible man.

OP you don't have to put up with this. Don't tolerate this or he'll only get worse and worse.

Oh good god. My vagina has just stitched itself shut.

What an abusive fuckwit. You need to leave / get rid.

Next time he reaches for your trousers slap the fuck out of his hand, hard. What a revolting bastard.

Take it out and rub it in his face. Then file for divorce.

And, and just to put this into perspective for you. I was dating a guy, and we’d been dating around 5 weeks when he asked me to come stay over. I said I was on my period so not the night for it. His reply was that “hey, making out and snuggling up sounds like the perfect night.” And that’s all we did. Watched a movie, kissed and cuddled up to go to sleep. Because that’s what normal men do when you’re on your period and don’t want to have sex on your period. And that was a guy I’d only known a few weeks. This is your husband. And look how he treats you.