Husband annoying about my period

[suzycy34]

So husband always wants to know when my period is and how long it going to last, and never believes when i say it’s still ongoing , he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not , or if I just making excuses as he says to not have sex , it’s becoming really annoying he’s asked about 5 times today already if I’m still wearing a pad . I say I am but he doesn’t believe me and I said what sort of person asks are you still wearing it or not , getting sick of the contast questions and he trying to feel if Im wearing pad or not , if I say anything he just huffs and feels sorry for himself.

He doesn't respect you.

That'd be enough for me to end a marriage.

Tell him to fuck the fuck off and go out and get pissed. (You go out, not him)

Jesus.

If you aren't on your period, what happens when you refuse sex?

This is seriously fucked up behaviour, please call women's aid as soon as you're away from him.

🤮This is abuse. You need to leave him.

This is one of the most grim things I've ever read

You can say cunt. MN has no swear filter.

Tell him if he keeps asking it won't matter whether you're on your period or not because you won't be having sex with him again. Seriously why aren't you reading him the riot act? Is he abusive in other ways too?

he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not

Wtf? That's horrible.

This must mean there are some moments whereby he initiates sex by grabbing your crotch and being delighted that there's no pad.

How do either of you feel in the mood for sex after that??

@doublexegg
Yeah I reported it (others have too) but MN said it doesn't appear to be

He sounds like a self-centred gobshite.

Ick

ick

ick

Yuck yuck yuck

What a sleaze bag

He wasn’t always like this , been married 11 years, I guess he always be the type to feel he’s right about everything or how you do things certain ways or if I do something my way it couldn’t be right because he’s not they way he would do it.

Knob

"Don't joke (day 24. Ain't peri a gift?)"

Oh no. Can't the doctor help with that?

"he always has to feel my trousers to see if im wearing a pad or not"

So he's treating you like a toddler, checking if your nappy is full? Rather than an adult with full body autonomy? I would break his fucking fingers and tell the court it was a reflex action (which I suspect it would be anyway).

He is a sex pest.

He is abusive.

What are you going to do about it?

So wrong in so many ways. Intrusive, abusive, misogynistic.

Plus, obviously, being on your period and wearing a pad doesn't mean you can't have sex if you want to.

From the fact he's accusing you of lying and checking whether you're telling the truth, you imply that the only reason you're "allowed" to say no to sex is if you actually have a period.

What happens if you just don't want to have sex? Do you have that option in this relationship?

OP - this is really not normal. Someone sulking because they couldn't have sex would make my legs clamp shut forever. You don't have to put up with this shite.

Just all kinds of wrong.
my DH likes to know so he can help out if I need anything. But I just tell him when I start and stop, mainly so I can excuse the grumpiness the day before. If I told him I had a 623 day period, he would just take me at my word. And ask if maybe I should go to the GP.

it sounds like he’s got form and maybe you’ll start looking at your life and see other controlling or abusive aspects?

I’ve read some shocking stuff on this board over the years, this is right up there. Christ

Sounds like a period fetish

So don't bloody answer!

I assume it's because he wants sex?

And he'd be checking for me wearing a pad Just the once

Then I'd be out the door

Does he have even ONE good point?

This is fucking horrible and abusive. If you say no and refuse sex does he get huffy? That is coercive and controlling behaviour.

He'd be the fucker bleeding if he did that to me! Like others have said it's abuse!