He put us on Pornhub🙈

[Xelaharas]

Fiancé and I have been together 5 years. We have our ups and down but the bedroom department is always 20/10. He went through a phase of videoing our intimate moments and I didn't have a problem with that. He mentioned to me before about making us a page but I thought he was messing around and at no point did I agree. He sent me a link today, to MY OWN PAGE on Pornhub and it's been active for over a year.
I feel absolutely violated and completely disrespected. You can't see me face in any of the video's and he uploaded at least 5. Personally, I think I look fu**ing hot in them but that's not the point. They were for us, they were private. I screamed at him over the phone and he has now taken them off, but I can't see how I can one day marry a man who basically sees me as a porn star. In one way it's flattering to know that he would rather watch me than regular porn but one of them had over 2k views and people had made (obviously) explicit comments about me. A lot of people have seen my derriere that I don't know and I really don't like that. I've told him that he better hold on to those videos because that's all he is ever going to see of me again and he's saying I'm overreacting! I've taken off my engagement ring, I'm so angry.
This isn't a conversation I can have with an actual person, without embarrassing myself.
PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME I'M NOT EXAGGERATING??

It’s a conversation you need to have with the police op.

Bloody hell, leave him immediately!

Obviously you're not overreacting. Having videos for yourselves is one thing, putting them on the internet for other people to view is quite another. I would feel utterly violated and betrayed. I can't understand how he thinks this is ok. It's probably criminal actually.

I'd report the scrote to the police. Fucking sick cretin 😡

Police. That’s an offence and people have been jailed for it. I’m sorry this has happened to you. It’s a gross violation of your privacy.

https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/information-and-advice/need-help-and-advice/voyeurism-and-upskirting/

First two comments have it.

This is awful.

He has committed a criminal offence. Speak to the police. There is no way of knowing if he has shared them elsewhere unless the police are involved.

I'd finish with him and report him to the police. That's vile.

*We have our ups and down but the bedroom department is always 20/10. +

well now you can just add sex to the list of “ups and downs” in what sounds like a pretty shite relationship

If there's any way I'd make sure the files/ videos are completely deleted and then I'd never see him again.

Even if you consented to being recorded you did not consent to having them uploaded.

@HesAWankerOp is completely right as is her username 😆

Absolutely fucking not

Police - today. It's been a crime for a while.

It makes me wonder what else has he done and not told you about

Doesn't sound like a 20/10 in the bedroom department to me, OP. It sounds horrendous. Report him and get away from him.

You say you didn't agree but did you actually refuse and tell him no when he talked about it? If you did then dump him and yes I would contact police however if you just laughed it off then possibly its a judgement error?

If this is real, this is illegal and he can go to jail.
they were up a year before he bothered to tell you.
im not clear how part of what you’re focusing on is how hot you are and how flattered he’s made you feel, which makes me think you’ll get back together with him and this will just be part of your ups and downs. But you obviously shouldn’t

You say you didn't agree but did you actually refuse and tell him no when he talked about it?
what a horrifying response.

Sorry but how is it a 'judgement error' to upload naked videos of your partner to the internet for 2000+ people to watch?

Aside from the common sense aspect, this stuff is all over the news all the time. You would have to be living under a rock to not know that this is not OK.

Yep... "you didn't agree to 2000 people seeing your naked body... but then again you didn't DISAGREE!"

WTF? So that makes it OK?

I haven't explicitly told my partner not to do this either. Because it's bloody obvious.

I hate to say it but the porn hub site may not be the worst of this. He didn’t just do it for the “likes.” He may have filmed you in other ways or monetized this in other ways. You need to go to the police because you can’t get to the bottom of this without a forensic examination of his computer. Nothing he says about what he has done is likely to be true.

Well OP is delighted how hot she looks and she's happy for him to keep the videos on his phone and she says she didn't agree but hasn't said she disagreed. Just looking for clarification. You also missed the point where I said if she had explicitly refused she should contact police.

bloody hell @Whatevershallidowithmylife please say you don’t have a daughter? please

She doesn't need to explicitly refuse.

She needs to explicitly consent.

Anything else is sexual exploitation and reportable.

Yuck. It is absolutely one for the police.

Arghhh not what I meant at all.