I think he's a fuckboy

[Worriedsick78]

So, I was on a very rare night out on Saturday. My friend was running an event and I went with my little one. I'm a single mum so I don't get out at all. I have no family nearby to babysit etc.
Anyway, this bloke, 10 years younger than me, kept smiling at me. I thought maybe he recognised me from somewhere and so smiled back. He was sitting at another table. He then left with his friends - one of whom I knew a little and had had a brief chat with that night.
About an hour after he left, he sent a FB friend request saying he hoped I didn't mind but he'd asked his friend who I was and would like to take me out. He thought I had a really amazing persona and stunning eyes. We chatted for a while on Messenger. We have friends in common. We live in the middle of nowhere. Everyone knows everyone. I'd not seen him before though.
This guy is hot. Totally out of my league. I mean totally. He's ten years younger, fit, gorgeous Viking type. I'm very very overweight, but with a pretty face. But fat fat. And in my mid forties.
So, we went for coffee yesterday. In the afternoon. We're both freelance. He was very chatty. We had a good laugh. He was flirty. We talked for a couple of hours. We had a snog at the end like a couple of teenagers.
But, I can't shake the feeling that he likes his women. He's very confident and sexy. But we just don't look right together. I'm wondering whether he's just fucking around. I reckon he is. I just don't know whether I'm brave enough to go for it, knowing that he's probably just after a shag. I mean, part of me wants to know what it's like to shag someone that hot. Or am I just setting myself up for a dose of pain? He's carried on sending messages all day today. He wants to meet again on Thursday. He said he'd be passing through my village on the way home from work and tomorrow and if I could just see him for five minutes, it would make his day. He's a fuck boy, isn't he?

But let's be honest one night stands are at best, hit and miss

amen
they really are
id say 50% risk it’s going to leave you feeling a tad negative

Yeah, I was thinking that too; men are much more guaranteed an orgasm from a ONS than women.

And mostly women don't report good sex/their best sex as being from ons's.

Your latest update was absolutely inevitable. No matter how badly he was going to treat you, you were going to have sex with him anyway.

You'll most likely get hurt. You're too invested now, you created a thread about him, trying to decipher his intentions, when he has told you that he wants casual and his actions and behaviors match that.

You've been wrestling back and forth about if you could actually go through with it, because you're not sure if casual is fitting for you. ..and also you don't want to be hurt.

You already berate yourself and have low self esteem.

Could you handle after a shag, if he were to block you and disappear from your life??

There's only one person making this complicated and that's you

Just do it IMO

But you've also said you'd be quite happy to use him for a shag/it's been a while, and not be bothered if he ghosts you.

He's coming on strong with the sexual stuff which does make him sound like a player/fuckboy and your instinct is wary of that because deep down a no strings fling isn't what you want.

Fine if YOU genuinely believe YOU could shag him and walk away afterwards without a backwards glance. Don't go there if you would be upset if he did the same to you.

I've not had any messages since the bath photo. He's not into me for who I am at all. So, I'm leaving it. Balls to the Viking! I don't even want to shag him now. I'm going to hold out for something better. Or nothing. I'm happy with nothing for now.

Worriedsick78

look n the bright side
your original assumption was correct 😊

I think I saw you said you lived quite remotely?
i can totally see why it feels a bit dispiriting

and maybe it’s showed you there is still fire in your loins

onwards 💪

Jeez, what's your problem? Not getting any?

Hi @Worriedsick78

All my life men seemed to have found my looks to be hot. Personally, I couldn’t see it although I think I’m not bad. Now maybe a lot of women find him hot and chase him and eventually he’ll get fed up of that because hot people nearly always attract the wrong sort. I know I have, right through life. I just wanted a good, honest decent man who cared only for me who was faithful and willing to put everything into a relationship with me. Tbh I don’t care for looks any more. It’s what’s on the inside that counts and someone with stunning eyes and a great persona would attract me more. Maybe he feels the same way as me? Just maybe you’re eyes and personality make you hot to him. Don’t do yourself down. Look at Pierce Brosnan and his lovely wife!