My brothers wife smashed a glass in his face last night!

[ROSEgarden]

due to his wife, we havent spoken in almost 3 years, she hates the realitionship we had, so had his hands tied behind his back with bribery(money!) and he made his descision..he took the money, left me!

i hear through my mum their relationship is not a good one and recently he asked my mum what to do..

early this morn, my mum rings, brother is in hospital been transfered from his local one as she threw(dont know how a throw can be THAT accurate?) a glass at his face..hes been in all night, had xrays etc and is now going into surgery at 2pm.
Ive rang him at hosp, after all regardless of what shes done to me hes still my brother and must be quite scared right now..he may lsoe the site in one of his eyes, he has to have invasive surgery to remove the glass..his biggest fear is hospital and eyes(used to wind him up by touching my eyeball as kids)..i asked practical things like were is car(so it didnt get clamped if at hosp) and what his work number was(so i could let them know whats happend), if he needed anything and told him regardless, im here for him if he ever needs me.

he's not a timid fellow so i know there could have been more to all this, but the fact is, hes in hosp and may lose his site because of this crazy, lunatic..but because ive been out of 'the loop' for 3 years i dont know what else i can do..im at work right now but have asked my mum to go buy him some comfy clothes(shorts t-shirt undies etc) for when she goes up when hes out of surgery..but i dont know what i can do?

they have two children who are with her i guess, hes worried if my mum says anything to her shell keep them away, but said thats it with her now so god knows what else has been happening?

by dp is impartial as he knows what my brother put me through and then chose her and disowned me so thinks im mad to be concerned and crazy when i said i would go see him at my mams(hes asked if he can stay with her when he gets out)

Things dont just wash away and im still very hurt but i see this now as the important thing, cant forget but have to move on(proably get kicked down again by him, hes like that)but i just want to do the right thing and let him know if will be ok...dont even know what im asking here, just cant talk to anyone in RL cos they either say im mad, they saw it coming or something..just needed to get it down i think..god families

thanks everyone, got to go to school now, didnt need this arsyness, shame people impose thier irrelevent opinions on everyone isnt it..thankyou again..let you know when he comes out of surgery

Nice.
shakes head

Sorry for not being a 'yes woman'.

agreed, meemar.

the man's been assaulted to the point of needing surgery and may be permanently impaired.

that side of the story speaks volumes.

it's domestic abuse.

NOT acceptable.

at all. ever.

I hope he will recover well, Rose Garden, and the outcome won't be as bad as you feared.

a 'yes, woman'. where do you get off, beanie?

the person may lose sight in his eye because he was assaulted.

Rose, sorry for being a complete dumb schumck, I am old remember! But I can't remember if you are the same person as on my Facebook! I did send you a card for your dd at Christmas, right? Anyway, do you want to actually talk to someone in person, someone not part of the family, just to let off steam? If so, please send me a message via FB. If you want me to ring you tonight, I will. xx

I am bit confused about the "yes woman"? Huh?

Rose is in our Staff Room Mo!

Apparantly we are all 'yes women' because we sympathise with the OP and think it's a terrible thing that has happened to her brother

I have apologised. I am saddened that all I got in response to my postings was swearing and rudeness.

Again, apologise if I seemed insensitive.

I know she is, but she's not the same name as she was before Chrismas and I'm confused!

Mo, sorry - posted in the staff room. Ignore me {grin]

I didn't swear and wasnt rude beanie.

Just pointed out that your picking holes in the OP's choice of phrasing was a bit out of place, bearing in mind the seriousness of what happened to her brother and her obvious distress.

So sorry rosegarden.

Hope he's OK soon. I don't think you are being soft, you are being strong and standing up for something you believe in - your relationship with your DB. However the glass got into his eye, I would say SIL has some explaining to do.

Does that make me a 'yes woman'?

thankyou(almost) everyone, yes Mo its me you did send me the cards..thanks for the support, lapin, my stres obv came over in that post, i wasnt giving you a 'tone' i was just agreeing that yes im stressed and dont take arsy posts to kindly, not yours

he went in at 2.15, was meant to be an hour in thetre but now it has been almost 2 and a half hours....mum sat in the waiting room and im chewing my nails away..keep ringing every half hour but dont want to take them away fromt heir job, mum just rang so will wait till she rings to say hes out.

2 1/2 hours in stead of 1 hr doesnt sound good does it

i swore meemar and i can again if she likes!

Again, I apologise if I seemed insensitive.

insensitive
unnesseary
irrelevent...

Hang in there, hopefully the delay is nothing and they are working extra hard to make sure it's all ok in there. Fingers crossed for your brother, and thinking of you all xx

I've been in a very similar situation.
I threw a glass at my ex and it smashed in his face, I actually meant to tip his pint over his head, misjudged and the glass hit his cheekbone.

It was terribly wrong of me, I know, I won't even botehr going into details about why because there is no excuse, but he was absolutely fine.

For it to have injured him so badly I'd say it was more than an accident, and wouldn't say there was any over reaction personally.
Thankfully his family were aware of what was going on and there was no issue with fall-outs etc, but in your case I think you're right, you do need to be there for him.

My advice is not to mention it if at all possible, I know it wil have to be spoken about, but try not to question him, or put ehr down, he is mroe likely to accept your help in that way.
I hope it all works out.

What littlelapin said!

Wish your brother all the best for his op-really hope its a good outcome for him
*Thoughts