Husband randomly steals

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I don’t even know where to post this and I feel incredibly stupid right now because I never even realised.
It just started because I complained about some random fucking carpet that was blocking my way in the garage. So apparently he has a habit of “just taking” things when he feels like it, and I never even realised. I don’t know why but I feel utterly ashamed and also shocked that he doesn’t see any issue with it. His friend was at our house when this came out (actually revealed it) and he also thinks it’s hilarious and “just something he’s always done”.
My husband has a very decent salary and this is not a money issue. I know that people seem to do things like stealing slippers and shampoo in hotels but a carpet?? It’s not even the worst, and I am sure I have only heard about the tip of the ice berg.
Clearly this can’t be normal? Is this something others have come across?

What a freak. How does this not put you all the way off him?

There is also a limit on how many times you can use food bank..trussel trust. Its 3x in a 6 month period. So theres not always options out there...

This is so bizarre. He stole a chicken? As in a LIVE, walking, clucking chicken?! Who does that? Stealing inanimate objects is one thing (not acceptable obvs but still) but to take someone's pet chicken is another thing entirely. I take it the guy is mostly devoid of empathy in general life?

I have a relative who is very similar but in their case it's connected to addiction too. When they're sober they don't do it but when they relapse they can't be trusted in shops or other people's houses, it's a nightmare because I still love them.

There’s different levels of theft so say someone was stealing meat to sell for drugs then that’s scum of the earth material ,but if say a classy lady was syphoning off fortunes from an employer to pay for private school fees then I feel that is okay because she’s putting it to good use , she shouldn’t be treated the same as the drug man

Wow.

I was about to draft a long rangy reply to this to say you've got it the wrong way round.....

Then I realised you've clearly posted it for a reaction and are taking the piss so I won't bother

@StockpotSoup 🤣🤣 Bravo 👏

@betterangels Yes, a lot of it is highly unbelievable.

I was thinking that too. Also that this 'middle class thieving' as it's been coined is a stupid thing for people to do. They are traceable, infinitely trackable and have so much to lose in terms of jobs and reputation.

Retailers and police would find these thieves 'low hanging fruit' and go after them rather than the smash and grab thieves who are likely to be violent.

Stupid behaviour and I wouldn't tolerate it from my husband, it really would be the end,

Jesus

I had your outlook on life @Thehighestmaintenance . Then God found me (he never didn't know where I was of course) and it's not as easy to square fraud etc with my conscience now.

Even if you don't become a god bothered, most people aren't as clever as they think. When the fraud comes out, having a parent convicted of fraud will undo the benefit of private education.

OBJE . I think my example was a tad extreme but I was trying to show that “ needs” and “wants” differ when it comes to stealing. Nobody “ needs” drugs but a private education is really only available whilst you are of a school age, and some parents me included wont even consider sending their child to a community school so if they can’t afford the fees what would you suggest they do ?? Earning the money legally would obviously be better but if the opportunity to steal came up I’d have to take that chance. I’d rather have a criminal record and children I can say attend private schools than a clean record and kids mixing with mainstream kids no thanks. Btw all the politicians and big companies steal one way or another I’m not saying it’s right but you have to be ruthless nowadays to succeed.

You're worried your kids might be influenced by criminals, but they would be being raised by criminals.

Btw just to be clear I haven’t stolen anything since I was a teenager ( wine gums) but I would not hesitate and happily do prison time to keep my spawn at St Bede’s

@Thehighestmaintenance The problem is that to you, stealing is justified for your child’s education. Someone else might feel justified because they need a car to get to work. Someone else because they work hard all year but still can’t afford an Xbox for Christmas. And so on…

So if someone nicks your car tomorrow or breaks into your house and steals your Xbox, would you be ok with it?

Tesco isn't going to go bankrupt because someone steals to feed themselves and their family because there is no other option

WTAF!!!

There's always another option- loads of broke people don't steal. Even stealing from Tesco has a knock on effect on NMW people working there, or food prices for us all etc. Plus burning in hell isn't anyone's dream future.

@houseneedscleaning I know, right? Some people start with a 'T' and rhyme with vole. But some of them can be kind of amusing.

For all these people including the dh in this who do it for the thrill, have you considered ADHD as being the cause.

FULSHAW . I haven’t actually stolen anything, I was trying to emphasise how important getting a private education is and I’d go even further criminally if I had to .I would happily go to prison if it meant keeping my 2 Dcs away from rappers who are keen to stab and violent gang girls who frequent these community schools

@Thehighestmaintenance You say you haven't commited crime for what you want, but your husband has.