Husband got annoyed at shoes I was wearing to airport and said I needed to make more effort

[Mathea]

I was hoping to get some views on something that happened a couple of days ago.

My husband and I got into a taxi to go to the airport. We were off on holiday.

As soon as I got in the taxi, he looked at my shoes and got annoyed. He said 'you're not wearing those old trainers to the airport are you, why didn't you wear your new ones?'

I said I didn't because my new ones were covered in mud from a park run, and I wanted to bring trainers on holiday and may as well wear them to the airport (all the other shoes I was bringing were sandals). I said I didn't think they were that bad, although they definitely don't look new.

He got annoyed and irritated. He says 'it's important that you make an effort when you go to the airport' and that I 'don't look scruffy'.

Once we were at the airport, I questioned him about what exactly was so bad about them, and I said I thought it was weird how he was so annoyed. He said they are awful. He then started talking about how it's important to make an effort in a marriage.

On the plane, I felt quite flat and a bit upset by all this. I'm not fussed that he doesn't dig my old trainers. It was the way he got annoyed about them as we were off on holiday, and that I felt he was embarrassed by me.

I then wondered if I was being too sensitive.

Are the old trainers really so terrible? Pic attached.

Would this bother others, or would you just brush it off? Do others think, like I do, that it's weird that he got annoyed?

It would drive me completely nuts if my DH tried this. It’s way too much interference, I honestly think you should consider leaving. 💐

The trainers are fine, your husband is being ridiculous

If this is a one off and unusual for him then perhaps he was stressed about the flight or something. If it is part of a pattern you see regularly then perhaps you need to think about whether he is worth keeping because he sounds a twat.

Why is he bothered and commenting on what you are wearing? If you had gone in a pair of waders then fair enough, but they are a pair of pretty ordinary trainers. Most people dress for comfort when travelling. He sounds old fashioned. You weren't going by Concorde!

Yes, this would be my approach. Hit back hard.

I have very very vague memories of travelling by aeroplane in the 1960s when it was quite an unusual event and people did dress up a bit. But it's really weird that a youngish man should still have those attitudes 60 years later.

My grandmother was from Spain and back in the late 50’s early 60’s they used to have to wear pretty formal outfits to be allowed on the plane to visit her family. Definitely a suit and tie plus hat for my grandad and my gran recalled wearing her fur coat (it was a different time) gloves, stockings and heels.

Maybe the OP’s husband was born in the wrong era

Wearing sketchers? Get in the bin then. Those are minging

I like Skechers. I'm considering getting a pair of the new slip-ins ones for ease and convenience.

I love crocs and trainer style sandals too. Dead classy am I. 😉

I must be out of touch as I had no idea what Sketchers are and had to google - I prefer the trainers myself but then I haven’t worn or owned shoes since the first lockdown

I think it's a bit much to say those trainers aren't up to it if you are wearing sketchers! Let he who is without fashion sin cast the first stone etc

Not just Sketchers, but slip on Sketchers! He is a strange man, OP.

Agree, a few weeks go my husband took the piss, good naturedly, out what my niece was wearing, she retaliated about his slip on sketchers. It was genuinely very funny. I’d also not consider anyone wearing slip on sketchers that matched his trousers in any position to pass comment on the ops shoes.😄

My ex criticised the outfit I wore on our first date (later on) I ‘should have worn a dress and heels’ to a local pub. He also used to have a go at me about my ‘scruffy’ trainers. Meanwhile he lived in joggers for a local sports team he didn’t even play for anymore, with a hole in the crotch. I never criticised what he wore because I loved him and didn’t care. Your dh sounds like a controlling arse like my ex. I always felt how you did on that plane. Leave. Walk away very quickly… in your scruffy trainers

Slip on sketchers and he’s moaning about your footwear 🤣🤣

Unless he’s Jamie Redknapp he should wind his neck in

Zombie thread! ***

The OP hasn't replied since November!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is really weird 😂

You don't have to justify that the new trainers were muddy. Your feet, your trainers. Could there have been something else winding him up or is he usually such a pain ITA?

The trainers look fine. Does he pick on other things you wear?

They don’t look old. I was expecting them to be really scruffy/ dirty from his reaction. YANBU.

Sketchers slip ons? And he’s having a pop at you?

The whole thing sounds ridiculous. Had it been me and it been somewhere like Heathrow I’d have taken in the trainer shop they have there and made him buy the most pricey pair of trainers for me. Put his cash where his mouth is. Otherwise shut the fuck up.